(Closed) How do US bees do it?

posted 3 years ago in Babies
Post # 61
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Bee Keeper

soymilk :  Thank you for saying this.  I think it was needed to be said but you said it perfectly.

Post # 62
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Buzzing bee

You manage because you have to. 

I was lucky enough to get a full 12 weeks off after DS was born. It was definitely an adjustment and I would have liked a LITTLE more time at home but I actually felt OK with him starting daycare at that age. 

Post # 63
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  • Wedding: September 2015

soymilk :  This.  All of this.  

I’m constantly stressed out about how life will be after having a newborn, but if we want a baby, we have to make it work the best we can.

Post # 64
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Sugar bee
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whitums :

mrstodd2bee : ”  You’re going to get heat for this, but I totally agree. Is the US healthcare system perfect? Definitely not and its REALLY bad right now, but I am very thankful that I have so much control over my own health and can see a doctor or even a specialist whenever the hell I feel I should.”

Thanks, EXACTLY, USA is not perfect but WE get to decide what’s medically urgent, tests, not the govt nor anybody else! I’m thankful too and totally agree with you 🙂

Post # 65
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Sugar bee
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Twizbe :  But if your main aim is just for a nonchalant advice swap then a side topic open to all parents everywhere on time management and other tips would have been a better fit.

Highlighting the issues of US maternity leave and the issues surrounding it is a hugely emotional and serious topic. Going into that and then basically saying “hey I know you guys must suffer having to go back so early but give me your tips you’ve had to accumulate through that suffering…btw here’s the better situation I have..”…it severely lacks tact and sensitivity. 

Im not trying to point it out to make you feel bad. Rather I’m just pointing it out so you may have more insight on broaching the topic in the future and so you can understand how the tone may affect those reading this. There’s a time and place for everything. Asking for people’s stories of potential hardships isn’t a time for trying to see how you can use it to better a situation you have that you know many would prefer to have.

Post # 66
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Honey bee

I think OP honestly meant to ask an open ended question and she did not mean any malice . On the other hand, adding that you have X amount of a significantly longer paid maternity leave while others can’t help having much less can be viewed as…insensitive?  I’m not sure if that’s the most appropriate word but that’s what comes in mind.

Post # 67
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Buzzing bee
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My household couldn’t function long- term on $800/mo maternity pay or 50-65% of my pay as some posters have said they get. A few months, yeah. But we couldn’t do a year or more with that. 

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