(Closed) How do we address return labels since we live together?

posted 10 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
55 posts
Worker bee

My FH and I live together as well, and we’re just using our first names for our return address, for example:

 Meredith and Derek

2000 Anatomy Way

Seattle, WA 12345


we’ve have friends who’ve done this as well and it looks nice, and it doesn’t scream to your guests that you’re living together. 

Post # 4
2292 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2008

Because my parents were hosting the wedding (paying for most of it) we used their address as the return address on the invitation; the traditional etiquette says that the return address is that of the host/hostess.  I actually used my name and address on the RSVP envelopes (although my husband and his kids moved in with me just after we mailed the invitations).  Technically, the RSVP should go to whoever is going to actually keep track of the guest list – so if that is your mom, they should go to her, and if that is you, they should go to you.  Just because your Fiance lives with you doesn’t mean that his name needs to go on the label, unless he really wants it there.

If you do use both your names on the label, yours would go first (just as it does after you are married if you don’t change your name).  You would use your current name (first and last) and his current name (first and last).  The one thing you pretty much can’t do (according to correct etiquette, and unless you want your guests asking a bunch of questions) is to write the address label as if you’re already married.

On our Save-The-Date Cards, since they aren’t part of the formal invitation, we used just my address on the back of the envelope for the return address (with no names).  The use of the name along with the return address is not really necessary for informal addressing.

Post # 5
813 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2018

For our save-the-dates, we used


Bride’s FirstName LastName

Groom’s FirstName LastName


City, State Zip


However, on our invitations, since my parents are inviting/hosting, their address is on the response card and is the return address on the invitation. We decided to be formal on our wedding invitations, but since technically my Fiance and I were announcing our wedding date on our save-the-dates, we used our address for that more informal occasion.


Post # 6
484 posts
Helper bee

If you are uncomfortable with putting your names on there why not just put your address? I use an embosser with just our address and actually now that I think of it, my mom very rarely has my parents last name printed on the return address for invitations she’s sent out over the years. 

Post # 7
405 posts
Helper bee

For our Save-The-Date Cards I probably commited a wedding sin but I just made a tiny label with just our address, no names. I figured it’s just the STD so it’s probably not a big deal, but now I’m wondering what we should do for the invitation…

Post # 8
406 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: February 2009 - Small church ceremony with mountain-view log cabin reception

We actually did something different:

Her last name~His last name Wedding

and then our address

Post # 9
127 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2018

Ooh I like that champagne

Post # 11
778 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2009

I also did what Miss Champagne did.  It’s very easy and it looks nice too.

Post # 12
152 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2009

For our STD we ended up taking the lighthearted approach and used Bride and Groom to be!

Post # 13
1379 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: January 2010

Since my parents are paying for majority of the wedding we just used their address for the return address on the Save-The-Date Cards. Made it easier!

Post # 14
2725 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2009

I was wondering the same thing. My dad is helping us here and there but for the most part, we are paying. I did see some really cute stamps on etsy that used just first names and they are relatively inexpensive so I think that will be the route we go. This way, we can still use the stamp after the wedding!

Post # 15
52 posts
Worker bee

we lived together before and did our first names "tiny and teeners".

Post # 16
2004 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 2008

I made labels on my computer and they were small so only our first names would fit! We used

Chelsea & Husbandname


City, State, Zip


I also love the Lastname-Lastname Wedding heading.


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