(Closed) How do we help friends?

posted 8 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
987 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2009

Personally, if I couldn’t afford to go, I wouldn’t feel comfortable with the bride and groom paying so I would prefer not to go and would probably send you a gift. I’d feel awkward talking about it. 

I would tend to just send the invites and see what happens.  Include a note about potential accommodation places by including cheaper accommodation hotels also. 


Post # 4
369 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

Ditto to what Pia2010 wrote. Look for the local deals and hope for the best.

Plus, I would kind of feel insulted if you offered to help me financially. 

Post # 5
4137 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

ditto the above. if most of your guests are in the same state, won’t they be able to drive instead of flying? how far are they traveling?

if you’re so concerned about your guests’ ability to come, why didn’t you have the wedding at home?

Post # 6
1269 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

People in my circle often offer 1 night covered, and the rest by the guest.  Would that work?

Post # 7
1749 posts
Bumble bee

@loveyes:My SO and I have been dealing with a similar situation. We live in a different city/state from our family and everyone would have to drive/fly to our wedding . We are strongly considering a destination wedding because of this. The economic status of our guests are similar but the hotels they prefer vary drastically. I have looked at securing 5 star hotels and 2 star hotels:0) We are only paying for our parents accomadations for 3 days, if they want to stay longer to vacation it will be on their own dime.

Post # 8
3762 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

What about looking into a guest house you can rent (check out vrbo.com) and ask people to chip in if they can. 

Post # 9
1749 posts
Bumble bee

@caszos:This is a great idea. Also, consult with a travel agent that can perhaps get everyone a cheaper deal on flights.

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