(Closed) How do we move forward to marriage?

posted 5 years ago in Encore
Post # 2
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Buzzing bee

How old are all of these children?  What gender?

Post # 3
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2016

Hmmm That’s hard. If his kids are not used to sharing rooms, it may be hard to make them. If he’s worried they won’t want to come over as much, that’s a valid concern and he should share that with his ex-wife so that she can support you guys through the process of getting the kids adjusted.

If your kids are cool with it then let them share. However, it may end up causing some issues down the road if they change their minds.

I just don’t know how I’d find or afford a 7 bedroom home lol

Post # 6
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Helper bee

Your kids are the ones living there full time and they’re ok with sharing rooms. That’s great! If I’m understanding your post correctly, his kids only stay on weekends. They’re all old enough that they can be talked to about sharing rooms on the weekend. Even if they were to stay with y’all more often, they are all old enough to not throw a fit over this. I had to share a room with my two step sisters on weekends starting at age 7 and I was old enough to understand that we didn’t have enough rooms for everyone to have their own. You and your BF are the adults, the two of you get to make this decision. 

Also, something to consider, you have an 18 year old that could move out at any time, a 15 and 16 year old that could be moving out anytime after the next 2-3 years. So then you would be left with 3 kids for any type of long term. A massive house is great when you have a ton of kids that will be with you for the next 10 years, but that’s not your situation. After all the kids move out except the youngest, will y’all want to downsize? That large of a house has higher maintenance costs associated with it. Obviously y’alls finances are y’alls business, but trying to get them all their own room doesn’t sound like a sound financial decision (this is coming from someone who is a financial consultant part time).

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