Post # 47
I often order a kids meal for myself at some places. Food portions are out of control! Add the option “under 12 kids meal” on the RSVP. If the parents choose another meal for the kid have them served the kids meal anyways. People will assume its the venues goof up anyways.
Post # 48
Alright people. It’s one meal away from home for one day. Even if the 12 year old received the same meal and portion size as the eight year old, they’re not gonna starve to death. There will be appetizers and dessert as well, it’s not like it will be their only meal for the week. People get way too nuts about this. The kid will survive the night, I’m sure. I’m 23 and usually order off the children’s menu and still don’t finish what I’m given.
Post # 49
@Rachel631: I cannot promise a preservative free or additive free meal. I’ve contracted with a great caterer but holy shit, now I have to think about additives? Never crossed my mind. I hope that folks with any intolerances contact me because I am not including a multipage RSVP with all of these choices. Goodness.
Post # 50
@hermom: Meh. My 12 year old sister and future niece willingly order kids meals all the time, even when offered something bigger. It depends on the kid.
I’m definitley of the mindset that the parents should let you know that their older child wouldn’t be down for a fast-food style meal when everyone else is eating steak and scallops! I’d still probably go for one of the other 2 choices..more balanced and ‘nicer’.
Post # 51
My 11 year old son would be horrified if he was given a kids meal. He loves adult foods and can easily eat it all. My advice would be to ask the parents or at least make it under 10’s that get the kids meals. If my son was given a kids meal I’d more than likely have to share my meal with him:(( but I wouldn’t make a big deal about it!!
Post # 52
@JFay: I understand that your sister and niece may order kids meals but the overwhelming majority of 11 and 12 year olds do not.
Post # 53
@LilRhodyGem: i would make sure the kids have no dietary restrictions and then give them the kids meal.
ie, if serving chicken fingers, can they not eat gluten?
Post # 54
to me a kids meal is an option.
It is rude and jerky in my opinion to decide who can apreciate and enjoy an adult meal “enough” to get the honour of not getting crappy chicken fingers.
Should Granny’s not get a steak because they don’t each much andprobably have dentures?
What about Uncle Frank who eats fast food 6/7 days a week, is his palate not refined enough?
Should little cousin Eunice be forced to eat something she doesn’t like because she is 11.5, even though she regularly chows down on fois gras, and quail eggs?
The parents know their children’s eating habits better then anyone. So give them a choice, and let them pick what their child wants and will eat.
Post # 55
@LilRhodyGem: maybe for the guests put in a extra little not saying “kids meal…” and “please respont if this meal is not sutiable for your child. most liklely its chicke fingers frlys and mackn cheese…who cant eat that..
Post # 56
@andielovesj: I agree with this very much. Kids are people too and plenty of adult guests leave a lot of uneaten 125.00/person food on their plate.
Post # 57
I think you offer the option of a child’s portion of the adult meal or a specific “child-friendly” menu. Don’t even think about considering whether a child guest is worth $125 of dinner! Also, avoid the age range trap too.
It may well be that very small children eat off their parent’s plate (my 2 and a half year old granddaughter did at our wedding lunch) and the 12 year olds eat a proper, adult-sized portion. Just give options and that way, you offend nobody. Parents are picky about what their children eat and quite a lot of children have sensibly sophisticated palates. Others are fussier. But that’s not your problem. Leave it to the parents to make decisions about what’s best for their children.
Post # 58
@bebero: Children have less sophistocated palates. It’s a fact. Learning to appreciate more subtle flavours takes time. It’s not that children are worth less than adults, it’s just that they can’t appreciate lobster or filet mignon in the same way as adults can. If you want to teach your kids to appreciate fine foods – great! But do it on your own dime. It’s pretty entitled to expect somebody to shell out $150 so you don’t feel like your kid isn’t as sophistocated as an adult. I don’t serve chicken fingers to my kids at home but as a guest I can respect the choices of the host. I try to lead my children by example and would never teach them that it’s okay to be rude about what people serve when they host you because you think you deserve better.
I think there should be more than 1 option for kids meals because there is probably going to be at least one kid who doesn’t like/can’t eat what yu’re serving. If you choose something with dairy or meat then you should look into providing an alternate option since lactose intolerance and vegetarianism are, in my experience, the most common dietary restrictions among kids. Three options – like mac and cheese, chicken fingers, and pasta with a tomato sauce – should be enough.
Post # 59
@LilRhodyGem: OK, sorry… didn’t mean to freak you out! I just mean that many childrens options contain additives and preservatives, and it can be a bit of a shock to get them unexpectedly, if you were expecting an adult meal (these tend to be “cleaner” in terms of additives and the like). Just another reason to let the adults pick for their children.
Ugh… on a slightly related note, I went out to dinner tonight and had a mango lassi with my starter which I think had some sort of food colouring in it (I assumed it would be 100% natural because of the restaurant… no such luck) … I couldn’t even eat my dinner after that, and I was almost unable to drive, I’ve been so sick. I’ll be 100% fine tomorrow, but that’s what you get when you’re intolerant to common chemicals
Post # 60
I would give the option of a kids meal but let the parents chose or have a choice of kids meals. I went to a wedding when I was 12 and it was a reception for heavy drinkers and everyone 16 and under was actually placed in a seperate room (to lessen chances of a youngster getting alcohol) with different food options. I stopped eating meat when I was ten and the only food available in that room was chicken strips and fries that tasted like chicken (fried in same oil I think) I didn’t get to eat at the reception and ended up begging my parents to leave early because 1. I was hungry and 2. I was bored (there was nothing to do in “kids” room)
Post # 61
@musician32992: That’s a pretty bad attitude to have towards guests, and children are still guests.