Post # 1
We are running out of money for the wedding and it’s on Saturday but we know we’ll have money after the wedding (we’re not registered and our families are pretty good with giving cash as gifts). I’ve already gotten my gals their gifts. That I think is appropriate, b/c they’ve worked their butts off.
The rest we want to wait on til right after the wedding. I don’t think they’ll care less. These are the guys. Other than the Bridesmaid or Best Man, they haven’t really done anything. 🙂
We plan to give the priest, who we can’t really give cash, a 150 gift certificate to Barnes and Noble. I know one couple gave him a gift certificate for that amount. He’s done a lot for us. I think if he knew we were having trouble he might not want us to donate anything but we still want to make the gesture. He’s a scholar and would definitely use that gift certificate, if not for himself then for his institution/rectory.
How do we tell him or others they’ll get their gift after the wedding?
Post # 3
I don’t know that you should tell them anything. Kind of like, they’ll get their gifts when/ if you give them. But maybe you could have a “Thank You” barbeque or happy hour after your wedding or honeymoon and maybe they’ll assume that they’ll get their gifts then.
For us, we’re the first of our friends to get married, so I don’t think our guys know they are getting gifts and I don’t think they know that it’s etiquette to give gifts. All they know or care about is the bachelor party and to show up at the wedding on time.
Post # 4
FH just told me one of his groomsmen always thought the etiquette was after the wedding.
I guess I’m thinking more about the priest than anything.
Post # 5
A couple of options would be to either give them a thank you card with and IOU or if you can swing it, you could give them a thank you card with a $25.00 gift certificate from Best Buy or some other store you know they would enjoy spending the gift card at. You could drop the priest’s gift card down to $100.00.