(Closed) How to "work out" multiple rings for wedding ceremony?

posted 4 years ago in Rings
  • poll: Which option? (Details in the OP)
    1 : (2 votes)
    6 %
    2 : (22 votes)
    71 %
    3 : (4 votes)
    13 %
    4 : (3 votes)
    10 %
  • Post # 3
    345 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: April 2013

    #2 is a really graceful and appropriate option. Etiquette says that you should wear your engagement on your right hand if at all. 

    You do not want to fumble with an engagement ring and two bands. It rarely goes smoothly and I think it takes away from the ring exchange part of the ceremony. 

    I was at a wedding where the groom tried to put three rings on the bride’s finger. He dropped one, and then put them on in the wrong order. It was very clumsy and the bride was obviously annoyed.

    Another wedding, the bride wore her engagement ring on her ring finger, and the groom took it off, slid it in its wrap, and dropped it before putting it back on her finger. I always try to plan for the worst case scenario. 

    Post # 5
    9956 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: December 2012

    Here is what I did.

    Arrived at the Wedding Site, and moved my ERing to another finger / Right Hand

    (lol I cannot recall which one as I was very emotional… but I’m guessing it was my right hand as that is the norm Etiquette wise as another Bee mentioned above)

    When it was time for Mr TTR to say the Vows and place the WBand on my finger, he led with the most sparkly one (my main WBand)… put it onto my first knuckle, and followed with the second band.

    Then in the part of the Ceremony where it is pushed into place, he just slid them both into place.

    So they BOTH were considered part of the same thing / action.  One sparkly, one plain.

    After the Ceremony (lol, it was quick & sweet as it was an Elopement on a Beach Destination Wedding)

    I just moved my ERing back onto my Ring Finger… into its appropriate spot… closest to my finger tip.

    So when we were done my finger looked like this…

    Closest to my heart… WBands… Sparkly & Plain… then my ERing

    Here is a pic that was taken immediately after the Ceremony.


    Hope this helps,


    Post # 6
    429 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: March 2014

    I’d wear them on the same finger. Even though it’s not proper etiquette it would still look nice. (So, option 3 and just adjust them after the ceremony to the way you like wearing it.)

    Post # 7
    9956 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: December 2012


    I wore them in the above 3 Stacked Combo for the first 24 Hours or so… (sentimental me)

    Then all bets were off… lol

    Ever since they can be seen in any assortment of combos…

    1, 2, 3 Rings… Mix & Match.

    (It is nice that my Ring Fingers on both hands are the same size)

    Hope this helps,


    Post # 8
    1006 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: November 1999

    Am I totally missing something here?  Why not just wear the ering as normal, give Best Man the two wedding rings, and he can give them to FI to put on? After the ceremony, you just take off all bands and arrange them the way you like.  That’s how it’s generally done with one band, so just pretend the 2 are 1. 

    Post # 9
    11177 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper

    I voted for #2.

    I have two wedding bands and an e-ring. I wore the e-ring on my left hand (doesn’t fit on my right) and my DH put only one of the bands on during the ceremony, he had the other one in his pocket. I slipped them all on and rearranged after the ceremony was over.

    Post # 10
    11274 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: May 2009

    I would wear your e-ring on your right hand during the ceremony and use BOTH of your bands — but at exactly the same time, not consecutively — for the exchange of rings.  That way, both TRULY ARE your wedding bands. Your FI can slip both over your finger simultaneously as if they are one thicker band.  You then can adjust the rings into whichever order you wish after the ceremony has concluded.

    Post # 12
    204 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: May 2014

    @Brielle:  This is what I plan on doing if I decide to get a 2nd band.

    Post # 13
    11274 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: May 2009

    @pinkeclipse:  I think that’s a good plan. 🙂

    Post # 14
    3221 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: April 2015

    Is there a way to clip the two rings together so there’s no chance of him fumbling with them? I think treating them like one thick band just for the ceremony is a great idea.

    Post # 15
    3430 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: June 2013

    @GamersBride: I’m in the same boat. Do your rings fit on your right hand?  I like the idea of slipping both on and then rearranging. I have two bands and plan on wearing them on each side of my ering. nothing fits on my right hand though:( 

    Post # 16
    817 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: February 2013 - Mansion House at the MD Zoo

    I haev two bands and an e ring. For the ceremony, I kept my ering on my left hand. He held the two bands together (they fit together so not difficult) and put both of them above my e ring. As soon as the ceremony was over I rearranged before anyone saw them. No one is taking pictures or anything until you’re done with the ceremony. As soon as we recessed I just pasued and rearranged while we were collecting the BP for pics.

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