Post # 17
I don’t understand the idea that anyone would keep their own name and become a Mrs. Uhhh…isn’t that the point? That marriage doesn’t graduate you to being a grown up now/completely different person??
Ms. all the way.
Post # 18
You do not become a Mrs unless you change your name. You stay a Ms.
So it would be Mr. John Smith and Ms. Sally Jones.
Post # 19
The resource I used for all of these types of questions is The Wedding Blue Book: The Definitive Guide to Wedding Correspondece Etiquette by Crane & Company. In a case of addressing an invitation to a married couple where the wife has kept her maiden name, the outer envelope should be addressed as:
Ms. Christine Pritchett
and Mr. Troy Clayton
on two separate lines.
The inner envelope should be addressed as follows, also on two separate lines:
and Mr. Clayton
Below is a link to this example on the company’s website, which also addresses scenarios in which either the husband or wife or both are doctors or judges and numerous other invitation-addressing scenarios.
Post # 20
Thanks for all the answers bees. You’ve helped a lot!