(Closed) How do you address invites to non-couples living in the same house?

posted 7 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
752 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2010 - Ocean View Villas/Jasmine Seafood Restaurant

I would put their names on separate lines without “and”.

Post # 4
455 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

I have the same situation- roommates or non couples at the same address… I was told to put both names on the envelope like so: 

Mr. John Anyone

Mr. Bob Someone

123 Main Steet 

Anytown, USA


If anyone knows another way- I’m open to suggestions too!


Post # 6
68 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

For your maid of honor- 

             I would put Ms. Jane Doe and Guest


for your Grandpa and uncle I would do 

           Mr. John Doe and Mr. Bob Doe

Dont know if there is an etiquette for that or not

Post # 7
155 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: February 2013

@destiny1120: I agree with wording it this way.

Post # 8
16 posts
  • Wedding: July 2011

You should list them on seperate lines.  For people dating and living together.

Ms. Jane Smith

Mr. Scott Johnson

For two friends that are not dating but living together should get their on invites, and be given a guest.

Post # 9
722 posts
Busy bee

If you know the name of the guest it should be written on the envelope. Grandpa and uncle should get separate invites.

Post # 10
1696 posts
Bumble bee

I am curious — and I am curious about the other ladies’ opinions here. Why is it that you “just can’t” send each independent guest his or her own individual invitation? Is it because the invitations are so expensive? It seems to me that this is a choice between honouring and impressing your guests with very elegant invitations; versus honouring and impressing your guests with personal attention and respect for their individuality and your attention to correct form. Obviously, given the kind of things that matter to me, I would choose correct form over elegance. Of course, knowing that hand-written invitations are considered the most formal and correct of all and knowing that my hand-writing is considered very attractive, I always have an inexpensive and acceptable alternative.

Or, is it because you have only so many invitations, and have added people to your guestlist since your original estimate? Given that people probably won’t compare their invitations with one another and that, even if they do, it is less likely to offend them than to treat them as pseudo-couples when they are not couples, then why not just use some different invitations when you run out of matching ones?

Considering this difference in values: elegance versus correctness, where do other people draw the lines? Of course, e-vites are the least expensive of all if you really have a tight budget but still want to respect the individuality of each guest. If I didn’t have paper and pen and quite nice formal hand-writing, I would probably resort to e-vites myself rather than to lump unrelated people on the same invitation. I even think I would be less inclined to raise an eyebrow at a wedding e-vite than at one that included me on a group invitation. But I am interested to know what everyone else thinks.

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