(Closed) How do you address your in-laws? (mom, dad, mr., mrs., first names?)

posted 11 years ago in Family
  • poll: How do you address your in-laws
    Mr. and Mrs. So-and-so : (4 votes)
    4 %
    First names : (64 votes)
    66 %
    Mom & Dad : (5 votes)
    5 %
    Hey you (avoidance!) : (24 votes)
    25 %
  • Post # 3
    6377 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: October 2011

    First names. I would never call them “mom” or “dad” because I have my own parents and calling them Mr. and Mrs. is just strange to me. I know some people do it, but I never could. 

    Post # 4
    554 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: November 2009

    Ask him what he wants you to call him!

    Post # 5
    312 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: February 2011

    I also call by first names as well.  Even my Fiance doesn’t call my parents “mom and dad” (and he’s closer to my parents than I am with his). 

    My father calls him “son” though.  Its funny.  But, my mother made it very clear that “mom” would not fly.  She has enough kids.  lol

    Post # 6
    192 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: October 2010

    I refer to them as “Mom” and “Dad” when talking to my husband, but usually when speaking to them, I’ll say their first name. 

    Post # 7
    4460 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: September 2012

    I have my own mom and my dad passed away so I’m not calling anyone else dad. I call my Future Mother-In-Law and Future Father-In-Law by their first names. 

    Post # 8
    330 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: November 2011

    I address them by their first names now so probably will stick with that after I marry Fiance.

    Post # 9
    1099 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: May 2012

      I would much rather address them by their first names. They used to address themselves as Mr. and Mrs. So-and-so when they’d talk about each other in front of me. Now, they call themselves Mom S and Dad S (first initial of last name). This is what my FI’s sister-in-law came up with when they told her that she could call them “Mom and Dad” if she wanted. She didn’t feel comfortable with that, so she came up with this. I don’t feel comfortable calling them by those names, but I don’t know if the first name will fly. So, it’s still “Mr. and Mrs.” until I hear otherwise.

      Another reason I’m looking forward to kids…I can then just use “Grandma and Grandpa”!

    Post # 10
    836 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: June 2010

    Usually I don’t say their names, but when I do it’s their first names.  When I’m talking to DH I say “your dad” rather than their names though.  DH is the same way with my parents.  Neither of us would ever call the inlaws mom or dad since we have our own parents.

    Post # 11
    389 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: February 2011

    you should add another option to the poll, ‘Mom LastName and Dad Lastname’. right now I mostly use avoidance 🙂 but that is what I plan to go with after the wedding next month.

    Post # 12
    311 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: July 2011

    Their first names for sure. Not comfortable enough nor will I ever think I will be. Even my FI’s sister’s husband calls them by their first name and they’ve been married for about 10 years now.

    Post # 13
    389 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: February 2011

    it is crazy to me how many people are soo comfortable with first names! both my Fiance and  i come from families where it would be considered horribly, horribly offensive to use first names. it just doesn’t happen!

    Post # 14
    5166 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: June 2011

    i wanted to vote for more than one.. when we eventually get married i plan to call her “Ma” cos thats what he calls her.. but for now, I kinda just avoid calling her, cos i think its a bit disrespectful to call her by her first name

    Post # 15
    2385 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: March 2010 - Calamigos Ranch

    First names, but it took me awhile before I’d call them anything at all. 😉

    Post # 16
    640 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: September 2008

    Mom and Dad.  They accepted a pregnant teenaged girlfriend as their own, didn’t shun me or make me feel bad or stupid or irresponsible and deserve the titles since they’re absolutely amazing people! 

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