Post # 1
My best friend got engaged weeks ago and we had been dress shopping. At this point we had been to four shops in two separate trips and she tried on maybe 18-20 dresses. Out of 20 there were 15 she liked and 10 she “could see herself wearing down the aisle” and “it’s her dress”.
I would go to every trip she has planned and support her but at this point I feel like she has too many that she wants to wear instead of the usual “none of them wowed me” issue that many brides have. We’re going to a couple more shops but I don’t know how to advise her on picking one. Most of the dresses she likes are similar shapes and styles just with different details.
How would you approach this? Thanks!
Post # 2
We’re going to a couple more shops but I don’t know how to advise her on picking one.
I would just let her pick, she will eventually have to make a decision, you don’t have to advise her. Don’t feel obligated to keep going shopping with her though if you have already done it several times.
Post # 3
She’s easy to please. She’ll pick one. I admit I am kind if the same. Lol. I don’t have dreamy ideals.
Post # 4
I think she just is enjoying looking. And why shouldn’t she? Let her look and when she narrows it down, give her your opinion.
But if she still likes a lot… go for the cheapest.
Post # 5
Well, I would go on the trip it seems you already planned on and then just stop going (unless hanging around a shop all day and watching someone else try on clothes is your idea of a good time and you’ve nothing better to do).
But it’s not your job to advise her or pick for her. She’ll pick eventually. Unless she is habitually indecisive, my guess is she is enjoying the experience too much and wants to prolong it.
If she asks you specific questions, answer them honestly. Otherwise, I would just go with the “They’ve all looked really nice on you. Let me know when you’ve narrowed it down to two or three and I’ll be happy to weigh in.”
Post # 6
If you’re asking how to discriminate between similar dresses at similar price points, I’d focus on quality of workmanship and material. Which dress seems most figure flattering? Don’t forget comfort. She should try sitting and walking in them. 360 photos and video can be helpful if allowed. Customer service and reputation for alterations are also very important. Some lines may have stricter or less flexible deadlines than others in terms of ordering.
But if you are asking whether you have to go along to every one of these appointments, you don’t.
Post # 7
If you want to go/don’t mind going to the shops with her, just go and support her. If you don’t wanna go to any more shops, then that’s okay too – just let her know. If everything is “the one” then she probably doesn’t need to go to more shops, but she can keep going til she is satisfied. Everyone is different. If she wants your opinion, let her know you’ll help once she decides on the ones she likes most since they’re all so similar.
Post # 8
Stop going with her. Once her “entourage of loyal followers” diminishes, she’ll eventually get bored and pick one.
Post # 9
Does she have a pressing timeline? If she needs help to pick and is coming up against a deadline (like if she has to order one 6 months in advance and have time for fittings etc.) then that’s one thing. But if she’s just enjoying trying on lots of pretty dresses, she can continue to enjoy doing that with various family and friend groups. I tried on dresses a few times with different friends after I got engaged but didn’t buy one until I went with my mom to an outlet bridal shop. It was good to try on the type of dress I thought I really wanted (low back/backless) and realize it wasn’t nearly as flattering on me as on model-types so I could expand my search.
Post # 10
She has plenty of time to figure this out. Let her be excited! Some brides are just indecisive and there is nothing wrong with that! This isn’t your wedding nor is it your timeline, so show up and support when you can, but no need to let this take over your life. Maybe offer comments that are more direct and critical (“that dress is excellent for your figure” or “I love how the ivory/blush compliments your skin tone” or “Wow, you really look like a bride in this one!”). I wouldn’t talk about the price of any of the dresses unless she brings it up to you.
Post # 11
Thanks for the advice! I asked because she actually kept asking me what to do because she couldn’t pick and likes most of them.
I’ll try to remind her of the venue/vibe/comfort etc so she can decide for herself which fits best. I guess one of the issues is I’m not so straightforward (they all look fine to me), maybe we should bring along someone else to weigh in!