(Closed) How do you and you FH/DH split the holidays?

posted 3 years ago in Family
Post # 46
1604 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2017

For this area we are very lucky – DH’s family are Jehovah’s Wittneses so we can always spend the holidays with my family (probably the only time when I am grateful that they are JW’s, but I digress..)

However, my friends and their partners typically will spend Christmas eve with one side, and Christmas with the other side. And then for Thanksgiving, they usually rotate one year with one side and one year with the other side.

Post # 47
694 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2018

Usually Thanksgiving with my family who lives out of town, but this year they’re coming to us so it will be my family and his family at our house. Christmas Eve with his family and Christmas Day at our house with us and our kids, and anyone who wants to see us can come to us. Sometimes we go to his mom’s for Christmas Day dinner, but not always.

Post # 48
5 posts
  • Wedding: November 2018

What we do is avoid both families for thanksgiving and go on a trip (sometimes a road trip, sometimes international). That way, we’re not going to see either and we can avoid all that awkwardness. 


My fiancé dislikes his side and doesn’t like to spend a lot of time with his family, so we only go to big family parties on his side. Those are usually the day before the holidays, so we can spend more quality time with my side. 

Post # 49
2629 posts
Sugar bee

It is a constant struggle for us haha.

My family is SUPER close, my three sisters, two brother in laws, 5 nieces and nephews and parents all spend every single holiday together for a full long weekend away at our family cabin. I did as well for the 30 years before I got married, and the switch has been HARD. 

On top of that his family is split into three – his mom and sisters one place, dad and brother another place, and grandma and aunts and uncles another – and all of them live a 3-4hr trip away. Everyone is very close and they want to see us all the time. Meanwhile my family live 20minutes from us and are together all the time.

So far we are switching between one part of his family/my family/one part of his family/my family, but no one is happy about it.

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