(Closed) How do you and your fiance split wedding costs?

posted 7 years ago in Money
  • poll: How do you and your fiance split wedding costs?
    we have a joint account for all wedding related expenses : (50 votes)
    45 %
    we split it based on who pays for what. it comes out mostly even in the end : (20 votes)
    18 %
    one of you just wrote the other a lump sum check : (4 votes)
    4 %
    one person pays for it and the other pays that person back at the end : (7 votes)
    6 %
    Other: Please explain! (for example Parents paid for full amount) : (29 votes)
    26 %
  • Post # 3
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    Honey bee
    • Wedding: October 2010

    We lived together and had a joint checking account prior to getting married, so it was all “our” money, and all our wedding expenses were paid from there. 

    Post # 4
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    5494 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: August 2011

    All our money is joint so we paid for everything together.

    Post # 5
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    1192 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: November 2011

    Not sure what we are going to do.. probably put the money into the joint account or just combine the cash to pay for the things WE will be paying for… My parents are paying for the majority of the wedding and I will be making a lot of the things to save money. I would rather spend some of that money on a honeymoon.

    Post # 6
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    2550 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: July 2011

    Since we are paying for the wedding ourselves, its really joint.  He’s going to basically pay for the reception while I handle everything else.

    Post # 7
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    921 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: June 2011

    Our parents are helping us with the costs, but the things we are paying for.. it’s sort of who ever pulls out their wallet first or whoever has the money on hand. He paid for the deposit on the honeymoon, the rest was due right after I got paid, so I paid for the rest. I paid the deposit for the florist.. he bought the rings, same with invitations, cake topper and al lthe other stuff, we don’t even really think about it. We don’t have a joint account yet but we treat both of our money as our money.

    Post # 8
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    1303 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: April 2012

    We are each paying separately out of our own accounts, but he is paying for very little of the wedding (his tux, groomsmen gifts, and one of the officient’s fees) while I pay for the rest so it’s very easy for me to keep track of everything.

    Post # 9
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    106 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: May 2011

    We started out just alternating writing checks and keeping track of it, but we had planned on opening a joint account when we got married, and realized that it would make life a lot simpler. We now do everything (household expenses, as we’re living together) out of the joint account. We each put in a percentage of our monthly income, and decided that’s how we’re going to pay for the wedding (FI makes 2x my salary, and it was his suggestion). The only exception was that we bought each other’s wedding rings.

    Post # 10
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    602 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: October 2011

    I selected the joint account option, but it’s really my savings account. We’re both putting money into it and are treating it as a joint account for wedding-related expenses.

    Post # 11
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    1501 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: September 2011

    He is paying for most of it as he makes more than I do. We have a budget set out and I tell him when different things have to be paid and he gives me the money. I pay for what I can when I’m able to but he would prefer to pay for most of it.

    Post # 12
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    5273 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: October 2009

    I saved for years b/c I knew my parents weren’t going to be able to pay for the whole affair (they supported me throughout college & paid for everything & were doing the same for my brother when I got married, so I knew funds were going to be tight, but they still gave us some $)

    So in reality I & the money my parents gave me paid for the venue, food, photographer, decor, flowers, officiant, and all other wedding related things.

    But, my husband out of his savings paid for our rings, his tux, his Groomsmen gifts, and our honeymoon.

    So at the end of the day – he actually paid more then I did (and he makes more then me, so it was even percentage wise 🙂  

    Post # 13
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    10288 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: October 2011

    We’ve lived together and had joint finances for a long time so it’s all our money. 

    Post # 14
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    500 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: June 2011

    We’re paying for it together.  We do maintain separate bank accounts, so I guess it’s not really “joint” but we are paying for everything together.  So far I’ve been just picking things to pay, or he’ll pick something, and we’re just doing it that way.  It doesn’t really matter to us, it’s all “our” money anyway.

    Post # 15
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    1641 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: May 2011

    He pays for the actual reception and I paid for just about everything else (my dress, reception decorations, favors, invitations, etc.).

    Post # 16
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    405 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: September 2011

    My parents are footing most of the bill for the wedding, but I am buying stuff with my money.  Since I moved into his condo though, it kind of evens out as both of us paying, since I don’t pay rent. 

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