Post # 1
- Wedding: June 2012 - Hollins House at Pasatiempo, Santa Cruz CA
How do you and your fiance split wedding costs? More specifically, do you make a joint account for all wedding related expenses, or say you pay for the cake and dress and he pays for the venue? Or does one of you just write the other a lump sum check…or one person pays for it and the other pays that person back at the end?
How do you make it work?
Post # 3
We lived together and had a joint checking account prior to getting married, so it was all “our” money, and all our wedding expenses were paid from there.
Post # 4
All our money is joint so we paid for everything together.
Post # 5
Not sure what we are going to do.. probably put the money into the joint account or just combine the cash to pay for the things WE will be paying for… My parents are paying for the majority of the wedding and I will be making a lot of the things to save money. I would rather spend some of that money on a honeymoon.
Post # 6
Since we are paying for the wedding ourselves, its really joint. He’s going to basically pay for the reception while I handle everything else.
Post # 7
Our parents are helping us with the costs, but the things we are paying for.. it’s sort of who ever pulls out their wallet first or whoever has the money on hand. He paid for the deposit on the honeymoon, the rest was due right after I got paid, so I paid for the rest. I paid the deposit for the florist.. he bought the rings, same with invitations, cake topper and al lthe other stuff, we don’t even really think about it. We don’t have a joint account yet but we treat both of our money as our money.
Post # 8
We are each paying separately out of our own accounts, but he is paying for very little of the wedding (his tux, groomsmen gifts, and one of the officient’s fees) while I pay for the rest so it’s very easy for me to keep track of everything.
Post # 9
We started out just alternating writing checks and keeping track of it, but we had planned on opening a joint account when we got married, and realized that it would make life a lot simpler. We now do everything (household expenses, as we’re living together) out of the joint account. We each put in a percentage of our monthly income, and decided that’s how we’re going to pay for the wedding (FI makes 2x my salary, and it was his suggestion). The only exception was that we bought each other’s wedding rings.
Post # 10
I selected the joint account option, but it’s really my savings account. We’re both putting money into it and are treating it as a joint account for wedding-related expenses.
Post # 11
He is paying for most of it as he makes more than I do. We have a budget set out and I tell him when different things have to be paid and he gives me the money. I pay for what I can when I’m able to but he would prefer to pay for most of it.
Post # 12
I saved for years b/c I knew my parents weren’t going to be able to pay for the whole affair (they supported me throughout college & paid for everything & were doing the same for my brother when I got married, so I knew funds were going to be tight, but they still gave us some $)
So in reality I & the money my parents gave me paid for the venue, food, photographer, decor, flowers, officiant, and all other wedding related things.
But, my husband out of his savings paid for our rings, his tux, his Groomsmen gifts, and our honeymoon.
So at the end of the day – he actually paid more then I did (and he makes more then me, so it was even percentage wise 🙂
Post # 13
We’ve lived together and had joint finances for a long time so it’s all our money.
Post # 14
We’re paying for it together. We do maintain separate bank accounts, so I guess it’s not really “joint” but we are paying for everything together. So far I’ve been just picking things to pay, or he’ll pick something, and we’re just doing it that way. It doesn’t really matter to us, it’s all “our” money anyway.
Post # 15
He pays for the actual reception and I paid for just about everything else (my dress, reception decorations, favors, invitations, etc.).
Post # 16
My parents are footing most of the bill for the wedding, but I am buying stuff with my money. Since I moved into his condo though, it kind of evens out as both of us paying, since I don’t pay rent.