Post # 47
@Aubergold: We’re in about the same boat. I’m paying for roughly half the wedding and all of the honeymoon mostly because I make about 3X what he does and he’s still paying for school tuition. The other half comes from (mostly) my parents, and a contribution from his parents. All Fiance is paying for is my ring, his Tux, and Groomsmen gifts.
(He was going to write me a check for half the honeymoon, but then realized what was the point, since we’ll be combining finances eventually anyway.)
Post # 48
We had already combined finances, so we considered everything “ours.”
Post # 49
I chose joint, although we didn’t make a special account. We split monthly expenses, so whatever is spent on the wedding just gets put into that calculation. Since Fiance pays the rent and such, I end up giving him a check every month for the difference. My parents are also helping out, so they reimburse me for certain expenditures (up to a certain overall amount).
Post # 50
Post # 51
“There’s no 50/50 split for expenses as a unified couple in my eyes
@pinkshoes: I know that this wasn’t a dig, but this statement really bothers me.
We are no less unified because we don’t share our money. We both still have the same common goals… paying off cars, buying a house, vacations, etc. And we are both aware that what happens with our money now effects our future. We are both working towards it, just not sharing a bank account in the process.
We both have financial baggage from previous relationships and neither of us feel that that should be the other person’s problem. Now, when those issues are resolved we will revisit this issue. But until then, this is what works best for us.
Post # 52
My parents are paying for the majority of our wedding, but for the things we’re paying for, all of the money has come from the money we received from family members at our engagement party.
Post # 53
My Fiance writes me a check of whatever he can spare every two weeks when he gets paid and I put it in my savings and then use that to pay for wedding bills. I also put money in every two weeks when I get paid. Ours is an all inclusive wedding package so its mostly just 3 payments to the venue, 2 of which I already paid to them.
We are going to get a joint account after the wedding but for now this works.
Post # 54
We live together and have both separate accounts and a joint account, we usually just transfer in money to the joint account for paying bills, wedding expenses, etc.
@pinkshoes: I feel the same way about our finances. My money is his money, and vice versa. We don’t divide everything 50/50, we just think of both of our money as a single pool.
Post # 55
I tell him how much and we split 50/50.