Post # 1
Do you guys give eachother one small gift? One big gift? Do you set an allowance for eachother that you can spend on eachother? Do you just go with the flow?
This year Darling Husband and I each get a certain amount of money to spend on eachother. We usually get eachother one big gift and then several small. I am curious as to what everyone else does:)
Post # 3
We set a $300 allowance each which had to be spent on 5 items. It could be 1 big item and 4 small items, 5 evenly priced items, etc – so long as we each have 5 packages to open.
ETA: We “went with the flow” before we were married and living together but we’ve formalized it more now.
Post # 4
Normally we just go with this flow. This is the first year that we are married during Christmas, so it is a little more complicated since we share finances. Makes it more difficult to be stealth but I am trying hard
Post # 5
I don’t know! lol. I think this is something that might evolve over time. This will be our 5th Christmas together (first married!) and at the start we just got one (big-ish?) gift each. Last year I got a couple things for him (one bigger thing and several smaller), and he got me two big-ish things (although one was kind of a family gift– it was a blu ray player).
This year I want to get him a lot of stuff. Probably just one big thing and then a couple medium things and a couple small things. I just like the idea of him having lots to open and having our christmas be a bit more substantial. But I haven’t discussed it with him so I doubt he’ll do the same for me… I’ll probably just get one-two bigger gifts. Moving forward, who knows? I think I’ll prob always get a lot of items for him bc I just like doing that, and he might do that for me just to do the same, or maybe he won’t (which would be fine!).
Regardless, we have never set a price limit. I think I probably usually spend around 250ish on him and he usually does 250-300ish on me. Maybe in the future we’ll set a price limit if we feel like we need to but for now it just kinda works for us.
Post # 6
@Lt.Columbo: we agreed on a mint.com checking embargo! lol. We can still check our bank account (to make sure we have enough money to pay bills!), but we purchase gifts on our personal credit cards so we won’t see the purchases unless we use mint.
Post # 7
While dating I usually baked something or we we did things for each other (like Dh had to shave every day for a year). This year neither of us want anything so we just said we’d focus on each other during the short break we have.
Post # 8
We adopt a family every year in lieu of getting each other gifts. We have everything we need and get much more pleasure seeing or imagining the joy on the faces of the children. In our community, you get the name, phone # of the mom and basic info about the kids. You can phone up and find out more information.
Last year we found out that one of her boys was wearing a pair of motocross boots to school in the snow as she couldn’t afford to get him new boots. If you’ve ever seen them they are tall boots that buckle up to the knee and don’t bend at the ankle. Can you imagine that poor boy pretending that he liked them when kids made fun of him? We bought all the kids new winter jackets, gloves boots , a toy and a book each, some stocking stuffers. We bought some gifts for the Mom who had told us that she didn’t need anything. We also got them a full hamper for Christmas dinner and beyond.
I encourage all of you to think of others worse off than yoursleves to whatever extent you are able to help out.
Post # 9
depends, we are going overseas again for a holiday/christmas again so gifts will be small because i/he really dont need anything. im hoping for a NZ gold & jade charm for my bracelet but thats it and hes gotten a lot of new things in the past month so there isnt anything for me to buy him
we dont have a set value – it can be as small as a book that i really want or something very expensive, just depends
Post # 10
@CorgiTales: Our “limit” isn’t a hard and fast limit. It’s more of a guide so that one person doesn’t spend $200 while the other spends $500. Like DH’s 5 gifts actually total about $325 this year (with our $300 “limit”).
Post # 11
The first chiristmas together we went all out and it was fun but stressful because of all the other people we had to buy for. Plus, Darling Husband and my mom share a birthday that is two weeks after Christmas and money is so tight for me so we scaled things back a lot!
We have a budget of… $5! Last year I got a little ceramic dude that grew a mohawk and now he’s a pen holder on my desk at work!
Post # 12
Darling Husband and I set a limit and try to stay within it, it’s usally $100-$150 and we usually go over by $10-$20. This year I’m getting him a big gift (a Whatsit from FAO Schwarz) and a couple of little gifts.
Post # 13
We set a budget of around £100 for birthday and Christmas each. No limit on present numbers and that doesn’t count the stocking fillers (which are largely silly things or from the pound shop.)
By the way, I LOVE THE POUND SHOP!
Post # 14
@SpecialSundae: I love that you call it “The Pound Shop”, I think I will start calling our version the same thing!
Post # 15
@Mrs.Mittens: I think officially the biggest one is called “PoundLand” but it’s still “the pound shop” to me.
Post # 16
This is our third Christmas together and the first time we’re setting an allowance. Things are pretty tight for us so it’s for the best.
I just bought Fiance 3 presents for $50 and have another $50 to spend. I doubt I’ll get him any sort of big gifts this year as I have the past two years (6 pack baseball tickets = 6 games and 25th Mario Anniversary special edition Wii). I think we need to stick to the more practical things this time around. I’m very much excited though. I gave Fiance my BB&B coupons to use to go shopping for me.