(Closed) How do you call your mother and father in law?

posted 11 years ago in Family
Post # 92
4354 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

We both call eachothers parents by their first names, SO actually calls my dad by a nick name lol.

Post # 93
463 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

When we were engaged we called each others parents by first name.  Now that we’re married my hubby calls my parents Mom and Dad.  I just asked my in-laws what they’d like to be called and they said either first name or mom and dad is fine, but they don’t care. So now i’ll try out both and see what sticks!

Post # 94
649 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: February 2010

It’s complicated.

There is my Father-In-Law and my Mother-In-Law and her husband.

When I was growing up, I called my Mother-In-Law and her husband Mr. and Mrs. That was always the most polite option.

However, once when MIL’s mother was visiting, she almost laughed me out of the room. That was the first tim I gave thought to changing to something else. The GMIL insisted I call my Mother-In-Law by her First Middle, which NO ONE does and would be basically calling her her babyname.

I avoided it for several more years, until I finally was engaged after 10 years of dating. I asked her at one point and she said she “didn’t mind” so I just started calling her FirstName. I also then started calling her husband FirstName. My husband calls her “Ma” and she calls herself (in her emails and cards) “Mommy.” I’m a little worried she expects me to call her “Mommy” but there’s no chance that’ll happen.

My Father-In-Law was Mr. when I first talked to him over the phone. By the time I met him in person, we instantly clicked and I desperately wanted to call him something that was personal and belonging to me, like “Dad.” But over the years it’s been difficult. I’ve loved calling him “Dad” but my father has been RIGHTEOUSLY jealous, so I’ve tried to morph it into something else, like “Pop”, which is unnatural for me.

At present, my husband and I call my Father-In-Law something totally different as a nickname, but he’s always called him “Dad.”

Post # 95
2819 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: February 2013

I call them either by their first names (to their faces), or refer to them as “FH’s Mom”/”FH’s Dad” in conversation with others.

When we’re married, I may call them mom/dad/some variation (ex. “Ma”). That’s what my parents did. : )

Post # 96
3376 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: December 2011

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@mrbee: Hahaha, that’s where I am!  When it comes down to it, though, I go with first names.  “Dr. and Mrs. Hislastname” just sounds way too formal, and I already have a mom and dad 🙂 I’m also trying to get my SO to switch over to first names with my parents (he can be very traditional and doesn’t want to offend), so I need to lead by example Tongue out

Post # 97
290 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

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@mrbee:  You sound like my Uncle.  My Aunt and Uncle have been married for over 25 years and he has avoiding calling my grandmother anything.  It has now become kind of a family joke.


I call my Future In-Laws by their first names but have been since the day we met. 

Post # 98
987 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2009

I call mine by their first names.  I wouldn’t feel comfortable saying Mom and Dad and it’s too formal to say Mr and Mrs

Post # 99
967 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2008

I call my inlaws Mom and Dad.  My DH has always called my parents Mom and Dad as well but after our DD was born, started calling them Papa and Nana.  Sometimes I’ll call his parents Grandpa and Grandma. 

Post # 100
1235 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

In the four years I have known them I have never actually called them anything… weird. I just talk directly to them. Never really thought about it but wow… how have I managed that? I know they want me to call them Mom and Dad now.

Post # 101
4038 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

I call them by their first names, and he calls my parents by theirs. It’s how I was introduced to them (as in, Mother-In-Law hugged me and said “Hi, I’m Janie!”). During our brief engagement, she referred to me as “My Future Daughter in Law!”. My SIL’s refer to them as Nana and Pop Pop to their children, but by their first names when talking directly to them, and I’ll likely do the same. 

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