Post # 1
I can handle stress. A lot. But sometimes it just gets to a boiling point and I have a bit of an anxiety attack. It is now SUPER crunch time for my wedding (11/3 brides- HOLLA!) and I’m starting to feel the familiar chest crushing feeling that is my body saying “slow it down, or I’ll do it for you”.
Of course I want to relax, but stuff still needs to get done!
So, when your inbox, mailbox, phone are all blowing up with vendors, your SO, your parents, your wedding party all pulling you in different, and sometimes opposite directions, what do you do so you calm down but still function?
ps- unfortunately, I’m not a big drinker. I wish I were because I bet wine/beer would help.
Post # 3
Ouf! Yea. I totally know what you’re talking about . I felt the same way just before our wedding day. It was (almost) overwelming at times.
Just remember that you can only do your best, and that’s ok! Be gentle on yourself even if you do get stressed. Delegate if you can. Don’t wait ’til the last minute to delegate either (I did).
Also, looking back now, I realize that if I would’ve known how friggin awesome the big day was going to be, I would’ve relaxed more and taken more time to enjoy it! It’s the best day ever.
Post # 4
I buy trashy celeb magazines at the grocery store, hole up on the couch for awhile, and eat Sun Chips while watching TLC. Terrible I know but after a few hours, and sometimes a nap (even on a worknight when I’m going to bed in a few hours anyway!) I feel better.
I also tell my FI i’m feeling really stressed, and we’ll go on a date and not talk about the wedding. Getting out of the house, and to a nice-ish romantic, quiet restaurant really helps. So does going to see a movie at the movie theater, where i leave my phone in my purse.
Our wedding is a week after yours so I’m feeling the crunch too! I have to say, it helps a lot to try to handle the emails in bunches rather than throughout the day – that way you don’t have nagging thoughts about things you might forget. And of course don’t forget to delegate.
Everything will be ok! I know some days are so hard – last week I cried for 2 hours for no reason other than stress! – but you’re almost there! Lean on your FI for support, and as far as projects go, what doesn’t get done, won’t get done, but hopefully you’ll be married at the end of the day! Good luck!
Post # 5
Showers helped me. LOTS of showers. And I’m not talking the party kind. Something about being relaxed, and in a place where cell phones, emails and DIY overload couldn’t reach me.
Post # 8
@mayflowerbride13: Lol! I like the way you think! We have some Cherry Garcia at home right now 🙂
Post # 9
My wedding is about 10 months off and i dont handle stress well. I had a blow out this morning because i dont want to deal with it anymore already.
So i dont know. I have been medicating myself with chocolate so far this morning. But i have anxiety and depression issues so i am more intense then your avergage joe i guess.
Post # 10
@MsVoyageur: MY FAVE! next to the monkey one lol
Post # 12
@mayflowerbride13: Lol!!! Also, I love Phish Food and Half Baked. Yummm.
Post # 13
A lot of the suggestions in this thread don’t work for me because I’ve gone into crazed beauty regimen mode, eschewing alcohol (except for specific occasions/parties) and sugary foods. I’ve been oddly calm lately and I’m not sure why. Maybe it’s all the damn fish oil, probiotics, D3 and everything else I’ve been fiendishly taking lately! I also gave up coffee and have been sipping soothing herbal tea instead. All of this stuff I’m doing primarily for physical well-being and vanity is probably helping me mentally too though. No caffeine = less jittery and sleeping better, light exercise = anxiety release, health supplements = possible mood benefits. So I would recommend keeping healthy. And when you get anxious about something, ask yourself, is this something I can do anything about? If yes, write down specifically what needs to be done and when it needs to be done and then put it out of your mind until such time as action needs to be taken. If it’s something you can’t do anything about (eg, weather) just tell yourself that you’re not going to give over your precious mental space and energy worrying about something you have no control over. And I’ve heard great things about breathing exercises. Good luck!
Post # 14
I would take about 35-45 mins a day to myself.. Take a nap. Hot bath, anything not dealing with the wedding… Cut off your phone, sign out of Facebook do whatever you need to do to get them 35-45 mins out of the day
Post # 15
@Swizzle: i hear ya! i’m feeling that way too, would quite happily elope at the moment!
Post # 16
Just prioritize big time. Do the most important things first, and what doesn’t get done, doesn’t get done.
try to do some non wedding related fun stuff. It will help. I know you feel there is no time for anything else but there is, just take some time to yourself.
The week Or two before my wedding I had to tune out certain people periodically.