Post # 1
Ok here’s the situation: we want 4 bridesmaids and groomsmen. We have 4 of each chosen. However, I don’t know how to choose a maid of honor and this is why for each one:
1) Cousin: lives in St. Louis so she wouldn’t be able to come to everything and she’s pregnant.
2) FI’s sister: Also pregnant, lives out of town and we’re not close at all really.
3) law school friend 1: we’re good friends but she will be studying for the bar exam during all the festivities and I’m already taking a weekend away from that. She’s very anal about her grades/school.
4) law school friend 2: same situation as friend 1. Not so anal about grades/school.
Who would you choose???
Post # 3
Don’t have any Maid/Matron of Honor, just 4 bridesmaids? You shouldn’t feel forced into picking one, if none feel right then you don’t need one.
Post # 4
I have 5 bridesmaids and none of them are going to be a Maid/Matron of Honor…. I cant choose just one and I dont want someone thinking there my Maid/Matron of Honor just because they can help more…
Post # 5
What about having a man of honor? 🙂
Post # 6
You don’t have to have a Maid/Matron of Honor. Also, if you are close to a guy, why not ask him? I’ve always found it strange that the bride only picks girls, and the groom only men – I have good friends of both sexes!
Post # 7
I agree it could be a guy best friend, do you really need that many Bridesmaid or Best Man if youre not that close to them?
Post # 8
If it were me, I would chose the person that will be the most supportive/ make me feel the best. Even if they can’t help the most. I would choose the person I was closest to.
ETA: And yes, you don’t have to have a maid of honor 🙂
Post # 9
how about not having one. I know I have thought about it and might do it. you could just have them all be bridemaids.
Post # 10
I agree that you don’t need a Maid/Matron of Honor and that if you have a guy friend you’re really close to he can be your man of honor. I don’t have any super close female friends and my brother is my best friend so he was my man of honor and I loved it.
Post # 11
I agree with pp’s- either don’t have a Maid/Matron of Honor or have a man of honor instead, if you have someone who fits the bill.
*Edited to add- my Maid/Matron of Honor lives in TN and I live in CA. It sucked that she couldn’t be there for as much as I’d want her to, but she did her best to be as involved as possible from afar. We talked a lot on the phone, she did online research for me when she could, etc. It worked out just fine in the end. And what she couldn’t be there for, I called on my more local bridesmaids for.
Post # 12
That’s a good idea not to have one. FI is having a best man, his dad, so I just wanted it to be balanced haha. I could have both my law school friends be co-MOHs..
Post # 13
You dont have to have one.. theres not a rule, if your not comfortable with it dont do it!
Post # 14
I agree with previous posters… you don’t have to have one. All 4 of my maids have been awesome friends to me & I couldn’t choose just one, so I made them all my Maids of Honor. Make your own rules… you don’t have to have a Maid/Matron of Honor at all.
Post # 15
You don’t have to have a Maid/Matron of Honor…I’m not. When people ask me who my Maid/Matron of Honor is and I tell them I don’t have one, sometimes people are like but YOU HAVE to have one. Uh, says who? In my opinion, it’s better that way…with a Maid/Matron of Honor you almost expect her to help you a good amount (i know that’s not a rule, but with that title, you almost feel like she should be there every step). Since everyone is either too far away or two busy, it’s just easier not to have one so you won’t be let down when they can’t really help.
Post # 16
Yeah, if you aren’t close to anyone, dont have a Maid/Matron of Honor. Unless your FH has a clear choice for a bestman…then you might want to choose a Maid/Matron of Honor.