Post # 1
So this was a random conversation that popped up during my shower a few weekends ago. My mom was telling my aunts how we’re planning an adult-only reception because of size and other things. And my aunts were like “yeah, I suppose that when the bride is more mature, the feel of the wedding is different” (as in, more focused on the bride and groom’s lives and less on making it a family reunion, I think?).
But here’s the kicker – I’m only 29. Which I don’t necessarily classify as a “mature” bride, from an age perspective.
What do you classify as a “mature” bride?
Post # 3
Not 29 that’s for sure!!!!!
I classify a mature bride really late 30s and up!
Post # 4
IMHO, I think that mature brides are not classified by age. I am 23 and am getting married. Alot of people tell me that FI and me are very mature for our age. (he’s 24) We have always been considered by our friends and family as “old souls.”
I think it depends on the person, i too am having an adults only reception just becuase i feel that weddings are not appropriate atmospheres for children. But again it’s just me.
Mature brides com in all forms, shapes, and ages and i classify them as women who are empowered, driven, selfless, humble and aren’t selfish or bratty about every single thing in life although we all have our moments, but not in an overwhemling matter.
Post # 5
I wouldn’t say under 30 is mature…well, you’re obviously mature enough to get married…but…you know what I mean!! I voted for 32-39 b/c I was thinking that getting past child bearing age is getting to be more mature.
I think that with our parents (at least my parents), they got married at a younger age. My mom was only 21 when she got married and had all 3 of her kids by the time she was 30. I on the other hand was married at 27…I’m 29 now and still no kids. I think that things are a little different now. Women are waiting a little longer to get married (not all…but some are…), and I think that’s weird to our parents who may have gotten married really young.
Post # 6
I would say a “mature” bride is like, mid 30’s and up. And when you say the “feel” is different, I dunno, that sounds to me like a small but intimate ceremony with not really a party style reception. I think of VERY uber classy. Like a cocktail party that Audrey Hepburn would attend, haha.
I think, really, your aunt meant it more like your wedding is less of a big fling with drinking and dancing (less crazy party). And I know that my parents got married “old” at 26 and 29 (ha!) but i’ve noticed that if you get married young, it’s more like, “young love/hope/new beginnings/starting out on their own for the first time” for the young couple. But when you are older, it’s a different feel I think.Because they haven’t quite lived as much as someone in their 30’s. Kinda like how we all say “oh, i’m mature and i’m 24 years old” but i know when i’m 30 i will look back and say, “not the same”.
I know I’m not explaining this well. But i can understand it. There’s been different vibes from the weddings I’ve attended of 19 year old friends and those who are in their late 20’s.
Oh I also think of those cute family wedding photos of the older couples (30’s/40’s and up) with their children in their wedding photos. Very cute.
Post # 7
YOU are NOT a mature bride!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Post # 8
Oh no! Just let that one go, Goldilocks.. I’m the first woman in my family to go past 22 without being married, so I know EXACTLY what you’re talking about. But do NOT let that dampen your spirits. It’s your wedding and . . . wedding have changed a lot in the last decade or so, they’ve become more personalized, showing more of the couple’s personality.
Oh, I’m 37, my niece got hitched before me and there were fun family jokes about that one. However, I still don’t consider myself a “mature bride.” Whatever that means.
Post # 9
People usually will say a ‘young bride’ is in their late teens,early 20’s, and a ‘mature bride’ is in their 30’s. I’ve never heard of any name for those in the middle of that range,tho. Older brides are in their 40’s, so at 29 I’d say you’re closer to being ‘mature’ than ‘young’. Nothing wrong with that!
Post # 10
I’m only 28 and I felt like a mature bride. I felt ridiculous doing anything like a bouquet toss or garter toss, most of those things were left out of my wedding because I felt like we were too old for it. Two years ago we might have done it, but now that we’re approaching 30 it seems a little weird.
Post # 11
- Wedding: January 2011 - Vintage Villas
I feel like that’s just an attitude of some of the older generations (our parents, etc.) because when they were young it was much more common to get married really young. So, to them, getting married at 29 is considered an “older” age to get married. That’s just not how it is anymore, though!
Post # 12
Definitely not 29! That’s how old I am. I would consider a “mature bride” as someone having their first marriage at the age of 40 or later.
Post # 13
I think this is an “old-fashioned” term. Things are different today. People get married much older than they used to. It’s an outdated term (or maybe I’m saying that becuase I’m 44…LOL). It’s kind of like saying once you are past 35 you are more likely to get hit by lightening than get married. Today, that is b.s.
Post # 14
Thanks ladies – I love all the different perspectives! I found it funny to be classified as a “mature bride”. And yeah, we’re having a different style wedding – small, intimate ceremony with a cocktail reception and dancing. No full dinner, few of the traditions. Just making the ceremony “ours”.
So, I think that’s what I’ll classify as the new definition of “mature bride” – it has nothing to do with age, it’s a mindset where you’re past the point of trying to please everyone but yourself and are more interested in having the wedding be representative of the couple, your relationship and your plans for the future.
Post # 15
I don’t classify anyone one as “mature” according to their age. How mature a person is, to me, classified by their behavior. Mature people are more responsible.
Post # 16
@moderndaisy: I had the same impression. I’m just at the point in my life when some of the traditions feel really ridiculous, and some of the bride pomp is even worse. I am a lawyer, not a princess, and I like it that way!