(Closed) How do you cope when you hate your job/coworkers?

posted 6 years ago in Career
Post # 3
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2010

I don’t hate my job, but I also work for a large corporation and agree that part of it can be a little mind-numbing. I also used to have a really nice window cube and as a cost cutting measure they grouped us all closer together and I lost my window. Even the few people who do have windows stare at an ugly brick wall all day, this is really cheap real estate!

I sometimes fantasize about going into business for myself, especially if I have a bad day. But it isn’t worth it for me since I do actually like my job and have a great boss. The people I work with are really nice, they have their quirks but no one is annoying at least.

Hang in there, hopefully things get better! – Hooray for having a 4 day workweek – how did you swing that??

Post # 4
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2010

This has been me for the last 2.5 years.  Honestly, the only thing that made me feel alright was to go on Lexapro for the anxiety and depression that my job and my hatred of it caused me.

Luckily, I got a new job and my last day at my hated job is Thursday (3 more days!!) so hopefully life will pick up.

Why can’t you look for other jobs (other than possibily having to give up the extra day off each week)?  You’ll get vacation and all of the other benefits with a new job too.

Post # 5
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468 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

I try to focus on everything else I love. My job is much of the same and eventually I will be a stay at home mom… so I’m basically just killing time until than. My Health ins rocks so I don’t want to lose it.

We have 2 girls here that whisper constantly… I’ve never found whisper so annoying in my entire life except for it’s constant. Once one girl leaves the room the rest are talking about the one. It’s like high school all over again. Extremely catty and always complaining about EVERYTHING!!!! Don’t get me wrong they are nice when you’re here and I actually like the personalities… but I’m trapped all day and have actually walked in on them talking about me so I find it fake and I always feel on edge.

I say just focus on your goals and don’t let it get you down. I always think… Think is just 8 hours and I will be home to everything I love most in my life. That’s truly what matters. And good luck with the business!

Post # 7
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

Um, I have no choice either. My husband was out of work for a year and then went to grad school because he needed to do something, so I’ll be working for 4-7 years while he’s doing that. I cry multiple times a week because I’m so miserable. There’s no window in my dark grey office and there’s a lot of other things I could get into. Anyway, I’m miserable and to top it off, I’m working an hour away from home, so that means at least 10 hours away from my daughter every day.

How do I get through it? I don’t. I’m miserable and I don’t know what to do. I’ve applied for multiple jobs closer to home, but I haven’t gotten anything yet and I’ve looked for 3 years. Seriously, it’s depressing and I feel like I’m wishing my life away.

Post # 8
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

If it’s just a year hang in there. At my last job, I would joke and say there were dementors (Harry Potter reference) at the door of the building that sucked every ounce of happiness out of you. I totally get how you feel. I would even break down and cry at times in my cube. I ended up finding a new job, less pay, less to no benefits, and just stayed there for a while until I found a better job. Anything was better than staying in that place. Is the vacation time and 4/10 work day really worth your happiness?

Post # 10
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Sugar bee

It can be really difficult. I love my coworkers, but what I do is a little mind-numbing from time to time.

Is it possible to listen to music while you work? Not many offices allow that, I know, but here we can and it really helps. I listen to my ipod or plug into pandora when I want something different, and it breaks up the monotony of the day and keeps me motivated.

I also found page-a-day calendars to be a great solution to break up monotony and give me something to look forward to. Last year, my coworker had a 1,000 Places to See Before You Die calendar and we’d all spend a few minutes imagining what it’d be like to be in that place when she ripped the page off. I had Cute Overload’s calendar last year and this year mine is Disney. It’s fun to see something new every single day.

And if push comes to shove… daydream? I do that a lot, not enough to impact my work of course but I’ll think about my wedding, my future or whatever book/movie/tv show I’m into at the moment and that keeps me from feeling too blah.

Post # 11
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

@kate169:  My friends don’t even believe me about how bad it is because every job has bad parts, but, when they have no good parts, there’s no fun or happiness.

Post # 12
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

I HATE my job. And I think the only way I don’t lose it every day is by doing things that allow me to grow as a person and professional after I get off work. I don’t do it every day, but some nights I’ll sit with my computer and design something just for me or work on a project that is completely self-serving. That way I don’t lose the skills I’m not getting to use and I’m advancing ones I have…for a job I’ll get in the future.

It’s hard, but I try to remember that my job right now is not a reflection of me as a person. I am better than that. And to allow my job to stagnate my talent would be to let it get the best of me.

Post # 14
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

I hate my job, coworkers, everything.

I seriously don’t know how to get through it. The job wouldn’t be SO bad if I had a friend. But everyone here is at least 20-30 years older than me. I spend a lot of time chatting with friends online and weddingbee to get through it. I have no one to eat lunch with or anything. I see younger (late 20s-30s) in the cafeteria, but I’m not sure how to make friends with them!!! I never run across anyone nice in my meetings at work or work interactions. I feel SO miserable! Recently I’ve even stopped wearing makeup to work (and as a former sorority girl, I can’t believe I’ve ever gotten to this point.).

I guess I’m just working for the money?

Post # 15
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2010

@TheFutureMcBride:  OMG!  This sounds just like me.  I’m serious – I don’t know how you feel about medications – but starting on Lexapro has made me a much happier person.  I was crying multiple times a week from the hatred of my job (and getting upset about lots of other stupid little things because I was always just on edge).  I’m much more content now and better able to focus on things that DO make me happy outside of work (despite still hating work just as much).

Post # 16
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

@kate169:  Have you tried Pandora? I listen to NPR all day and mix in Pandora when I’m tired of talk radio.

@LizLemon:  Good point. I knit on the bus to work and wear fun shoes that make me smile when I’m down. How could I not smile at lime green Danskos?

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