Post # 1
Hello everyone! long time lurker, first time poster. I am sure every one has difficult times in their marriage and its not something we usually talk to about our families or friends because its something between you and your SO.
So how do you cop ewith difficult times in your life? and I am not talking about cheating or anything like that but just regular everyday hardship or bumps in the road?
Post # 2
My Fiance & I agreed to proactively do couples counseling before we get married in July. Normally it’s done in our church, kind of like a Protestant pre-cana. I really wanted to go to a more traditional therapist who happened to be Christian, so we agreed with our pastor to see somebody outside of our church. Best thing we ever did. Has helped with a lot of personal stressors for both Fiance & I.
Post # 3
We try not to let the problem spill over into other parts of our relationship. If the problem is x, we try not to let it affect y. Individually, my Fiance and I have been through some significant hard times and that keeps the day to day issues in perspective.
Post # 4
I try to stay positive and focus on the good aspects of our marriage – the things I like about him, the milestones we’ve reached together, the nice moments we shared, and so on. Like attracts like. It usually helps me keep a more relaxed attitude which in turns improves our communication mode.
Counseling is another thing I can’t recommend enough. It has helped me not feeling overwhelmed in difficult times.