(Closed) How do you cope with disappointment?

posted 6 years ago in TTC
Post # 3
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2550 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

-Friends.  My close gf and family know that we’re TTC so I reach out to them often.  Several of my gf have had fertility issues, so they understand where I’m coming from.  Plus they know if I call and say I need a break, they will be the first to take me to sushi and the local wine bar.

-Books.  I love my local library and I have a queue of books waiting to be read.  I read everything but fertility books cause I know more than enough.

-Limiting Internet Time.  I’ve had to step away when I get to obsessive.  And I let Darling Husband know when its time to tell me to “Walk Away from The Tablet”

-Furbabies- I added a 3rd to our family and he’s been keeping me busy.  He has extreme separation anxiety so the past month has been quiet lively. 

-Counseling.  Although I haven’t gone to a counselor yet, if it gets too overwhelming, I will not heistate.  Counseling is wonderful and helps when you are @ your wits end.

-Meditation.  Before Darling Husband and I got together, I was attending annunally wklong retreats.  Now I’m ready to get back into moments of silence because its really refreshing and relaxing for me.

-Yoga. Very relaxing, calming, and refreshing.  Once I resolve my spinal issues, I want to get back to my daily yoga routine.

-Prayer.

Post # 4
Bee
6473 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2011 - Sydney, Australia

I think it’s virtually impossible NOT to get overwhelmed by it all – infertility is hard because the only real ‘cure’ or ‘fix’ happens if/when you are successful in becoming a mum, in some way, shape or form. 

For me.. I’m trying tos hard to distract myself and keep busy in other ways. It works some days; other days I’m a mess. Having these boards here with women that are in similar situations has been an absolute blessing. 

Post # 7
Bee
6473 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2011 - Sydney, Australia

@smokingpoint:  Yes! It’s hard. I remember venturing into the IF boards when I first started seeing my RE, and it was a bit daunting. But we all do things at our own pace, so don’t worry about that. We’re here if you need us.

Post # 8
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2550 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

@smokingpoint:  I forgot to add I’ll be 42 in a month so I completely understand how even more stress TTC can be.  I’ve been given 3 months naturally and then off to IVF.  Its overwhelming and frustrating but I’m thankful to have my Darling Husband and girls.  When it gets bad, I reach out and there’s always someone there to put me back together again. 

“An Idle Mind is the Devil’s Playground”  is soo true.  Even if it means taking a walk around the block, then do it.  Having my new crazy Furbaby has been great cause I have to walk him, feed him, interpret his barks, etc.  Find something having nothing to do w/ TTC and focus on that.   Get up and get out.  It really does do wonders.

Post # 10
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2161 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

I just wanted to lend my support.  I’ve been in bad shape since we found out Darling Husband doesn’t have any sperm on Dec 1.   I hope you get your baby really soon.

(I just saw this on the main board, I can’t go into this forum without feeling teary.)

Post # 12
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2538 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2009

I’ve also found a ton of support in the infertility blogging community.  It’s less overwhelming than the boards because you follow people you choose to and therefore do not have to hear about 1st month success stories.  i like that many people have the same frustrations that I do.  I think it would be helpful to get to know the ladeis on the infertility and 6 months + thread.  Some of us email outside of WB and/or we follow eachother’s blogs and it’s quite a nice community.

Post # 13
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227 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

I’m not TTC but lately I’ve found myself in a bit of a rut. You hear it time and time again- exercise, exercise, exercise.. But there’s a reason it’s spouted around- all those happy endorphins help! Even if you just take half an hour out of your day to go for a walk- it really helps to lift your mood (plus it’s better for you than wine and doesn’t hurt the baby making process either!). I suck at being motivated, so I’ve signed up to 3 classes a week with a trainer, and I am there without fail. But if I put in my schedule “go for walk” it never happens. Adding just 3 hours of exercise a week has had such a flow on to so many more aspects of my life.

I hope you and your Darling Husband get your bub really soon.

Post # 15
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2538 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2009

I’ll PM you the link to mine and you can see which ones I subscribe to.

Post # 16
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3314 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

It’s hard not to have a good cry every so often especially when you find out that yet another person that’s been trying for 5 mins is pregnant again, but for the most part, I focus on other goals – some related and some not – like continuing my weight loss efforts and my healthy eating, diving my nose into a book or studies, watching tv or playing a video game.  I avoid most generic ttc sections and head for the long term ttc or ttc after a loss type sections.  

My hubby and I have been trying for close to 2 years now, and just recently suffered a miscarriage as well, so I know how you feel about all of this.  

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