Post # 1
After one year of marriage, I’ve been hit by a wave of pretty severe homesickness, which is strange because I left “home” 4 years ago now. My husband is now here with me and I am thrilled about that, but I am left feeling empty.
My entire family is thousands of miles away and I have visited once for a few days, but it was a while ago. I am planning a second trip to happen within the next month.
But the homesickness is more than “home” – my parents moved from the home I grew up in and so there isn’t “home” anymore. My apartment with my husband is rented and we are slowly trying to turn it into “home” for us, the way we should.
I miss my family, I miss having people around who care about me – no close friends here where I live. My husband’s family that he keeps in contact with is very small (one person) and I have a hard time fitting-in.
How do you cope with homesickness/loneliness in your new family?
Post # 3
It’s hard to be away from your support system. I too struggled after moving thousands of miles away from my “home.” Five years later, I still strugle with bouts of homesickness. However, it really helped me to make friends here. Look for a local sport club or another organization you are interested in or take a course. Not only does it give you something to look forward to you can make new friends with common interests. I found I made the best friends at work. Also, I taught English at a local language school for awhile for the social benefits of working with others who spoke my language and were also in a new city. That was a huge first stwep in feeling not alone. I find that talking to my best friends from home helps a lot too and turn to Skype or Facebook when I’m feeling particuarly homesick. I miss my family and especially when they are getting together for Thanksgiving or another Holiday. I have started calling on speaker phone during family gatherings which is a great way to get a nice dose of the whole family at once and remember the comfortable chaos of holidays. That may be a bit dangerous if you are also homesick. Finally, I find it helps me to talk with Darling Husband about it if I am really struggling and to plan visits home in advance so I have some time to look forward to visiting. I have not been home since our wedding last Sept. and don’t have a trip planned at present which is a huge change from last years when I was in the US quite frequently and always tagged a day or 2 on to visit home. Good luck and fel free to PM me if you need some encouragement.
Post # 4
@slicey19:Thanks so much slicey. 🙂