MemberI need prayers. I can’t do this and I just can’t believe it. RIP, my Tigey (Tiger). We loved our kitty… But only had him for about 5 years. I thought I had so many more years with him…
Member@alotlikelove: I am so sorry 🙁 I lost my Bailey last year around this time. It was gut-wrenching hard for weeks, months even. I don’t really have any advice except to take all the time you need and let yourself feel however you need to feel. <3
MemberIt’s extremely hard losing a pet, especially one you have had for years. They are your baby and have a special place in your heart. Death is something that can only be coped with over time. No one can decide for you how much time it takes for you to grieve, over a pet or a human life. You simply take each day as it comes, and remember that it’s okay to feel what you’re feeling. It might help to dawn on the happy memories you shared and even make a small memorial for them in your yard (maybe plant a few flowers in their honor or something) to help you have closure. Everyone deals with death in their own ways and their own time, and you will too. Just know that it is completely normal to feel the way you’re feeling – you don’t have to ‘stay strong’ you just need to let time heal your heart.
MemberMy condolences :(. When I first started dating Darling Husband, his cat died. He was devastated. I found that going through old pictures to “celebrate” his cat’s life helped. He chose to cremate him (not gonna lie, it creeped me out), and we framed a photo to place near his ashes on a bookcase. When the holidays came, he moved them to a more discrete location and they’re not prominently displayed at all anymore.
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MemberSo sorry for your loss. It’s much like losing a person. We can’t talk to them, but they are there with you at home all the time, they show their love, cuddle, play, etc. They are part of the family and it hurts to lose them. 🙁
I wish I could tell you something to make it better, but only time will. And just like people, you don’t foreget them, you just get to a point where you have fond memories and think “I miss them” in a happy memory way. It hurts and that’s part of grieving. I had an awesome cat when I was in high school that passed not long after, almost 20 years later I have friends who say “Man, I miss that cat, he was awesome.”. 🙂 I’ve had a couple other cats that passed in that time who I loved and miss too, but most people weren’t as close to my cats after high school.
If you have any family or friends who loved him too, talk to them. They just might miss him too!
Member@alotlikelove: I was hesistant to click on this thread because the thought of losing my doggie makes my stomach turn. I’m so sorry for your loss. ::hugs:: I still get teary when thinking of the pets I’ve had and lost. Time makes it easier…so cliche, I know, but it’s true.
MemberI’m so sorry. One of my cats and her three kittens died last year. I watched those kittens be born and it broke my heart. The only real healer is time… bury your pet, give them a good send off, and allow yourself to cry for a while, before moving on.
MemberI cry and cry and cry. And then I go and adopt another animal. The only thing that’s ever made me feel better about a pet’s death is saving the life of another animal!
Member@crayfish: +1. In theory, that is what I would want to do. I’m not sure if I could though. My baby is only 10 months old, so hopefully that is a long way off for me. I know I will give myself time to grieve, but I also can’t imagine my life without any furbabies running around.
MemberSo sorry for your loss 🙁 As a pp said, only time will help the hurt. My baby will be 12 this year and I know her time is approaching. Hurts to even think about 🙁
MemberLast year I lost a puppy after only having him for three months and he was just six months of age. It took me months to recover because of how sudden and tragic his death was. To help with the recovery I brought 2 charm necklaces of his breed and on the one anniversary I got a small tattoo with his dates as a way to recover. Of all the animals death I exerpienced his was the one that hit me the hardest and still have trouble with forgiving myself with his death.
Member@alotlikelove: I am so sorry for your loss. I lost my cat Cinnamon 3 years ago yesterday at the tender age of 8 years old. I also thought I had so many more years with him (he had health issues). I recommend looking through pictures when you are ready. When you are, print out many and keep them around. I also have my cat as my background. I like that I can see hiis sweet face everyday even though he isn’t here with me
MemberI’m so sorry – it’s just like any other loss, you have to let yourself grieve. You could do something to remember your cat like PP have suggested, create a memento for yourself or even have a little ceremony for him. But it is only time that will help you to feel better, and eventually you will be able to look back on the good memories without feeling overwhelmed by sadness.
MemberSo so sorry for your loss. We lost our family dog (very suddenly as well). I cried for days and still tear up occasionally (he died in April). I miss him everyday. Just let yourself grieve. Lots of love your way!
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