Post # 16
knightmiss : Thanks 🙂 I guess between feeling hormonal this time of month and everything else, I just feel so unbearably isolated and lonely. I am luckily marrying the love of my life. My cousin who got chemo? She had all the festivities, friends rooting for her, amazing in-laws. Then she got married, found out he did cocaine, and he infected her with a STD that led to cancer/removal of organs. Keeping things in perspective. I guess, if anything, it’s best to have a lackluster audience and amazing, wonderful future husband than the other way around.
Post # 17
carmensandiego38 : personally I would just give my mom half of what was owed and tell her to take you to court. She gifted it to you and its all in her name and its not fair that you have to now pay her back because she’s being an a%%hole/changed her mind. f8ck that.
Post # 18
carmensandiego38 : Holy sh*t. Yeah, much higher preference on a good marriage!
Post # 19
avprobeauty : +1
It’s unconscionable to gift someone college tutition and then take back your gift and make them pay you instead. I could see asking for some help in return if one falls in financial hard times but forcing someone to pay you back a gift is just wrong.
OP, it sounds like a lot of people in your life do have a lot going on (MIL, cousins, etc). But I can understand feeling like you want as many people as possible to share your joy. I would suggest getting your girlfriends together for something like manicures and some quality time. Even if it’s just one friend or a cousin you haven’t seen in awhile.
Post # 20
New baby – more important than your wedding
Chemo – more important than your wedding
Financial problems – more important than your wedding
That text with your friend, she asked you how you were and you responded that you were busy. You did not ask how she was. I wouldn’t write back to that either
Nobody cares as much about your wedding as you do. I’m sorry that people aren’t jumping for joy to watch you try on dresses or offering you money to pay for your party, but your wedding is likely one of several they are attending this year.
Post # 21
Sorry no one seems to be supportive or joyful for you. That sucks and I’ve been there too. But you gotta make you happy and someone is defiantly happy to have you in their life and that is your amazing future husband! Focus on that and enjoy your time together. Congrats bee and goodluck! 😊
Post # 22
mohbestie : actually, I did ask her “how’s life?” at the end of my msg to her. I know it’s stupid, but it hurts. But yeah, I agree on the rest.
Post # 23
First off! Congratulations! Yay!
Secondly, stop paying your parents! It was a gift so pretend it as so and if she wants more $ she can take you to court.
Post # 24
I do chemo and there are LOT of things I would like to do but can’t. So cut her some slack
Post # 25
lavieenviolette : no kidding but its her mom so I can see where she’s in a tough spot. I reasoned with half. We don’t know all the details, but yeah….definitely not cool on her moms part.
Post # 26
No one cares as much about your wedding as you. There was a poll here recently about the best wedding food and EVERYONE said their wedding had the best food. HA!
Most people are invited to dozens of weddings every year. Obviously family should be prioritized but a lot of people see weddings as inconvenient, pricey events. FOcus on being your own support system and you will be happier in the long run. BUt also, don’t hold grudges. Assume everyone around you is doing as much as they can. They have their own lives and problems.
Post # 27
arosebyanyothername : Don’t want to threadjack but just wanted to say chin up and all the best with your treatments. Cancer sucks big balls!
Post # 28
I’m perplexed on the “gift” of tuition. Did your mom pay your tuition or did she take out loans on your behalf that need to be paid back? If there are loans, then I think it’s crappy of you to not gladly pay them. You’d actually stick your mom with debt when the loans were the only way to fund your education? She didn’t walk away with a degree, you did.
Post # 29
carmensandiego38 : Thank you for clarifying 👍
Post # 30
j_jaye : thank you. I ‘m going to be fine