How do you cut down a guest list?

posted 2 years ago in Guests
Post # 2
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Busy Beekeeper

invite in circles. What if you just did parents, grandparents, siblings, close friends? 

Cutting out aunts/uncles/cousins should limit it quite a bit. 

Post # 3
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2019 - Chateau Lake Louise

Coco Brown Walker :  If you genuinely want to cap it, you invite immediate family only. Parents, siblings, and their children. If your family is that connected, they will understand you are on a tight budget and couldn’t include everyone.

If you are determined to have a reception that includes everyone, consider looking at state park facilities. They often have spaces with access to kitchens and bathrooms where you can bring in your own food and would accommodate such a large group. Also, they tend to be FAR less expensive than private venues.

Post # 4
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2014

You have to draw a cut like somewhere and not make exceptions. Do immediately family only and maybe 5 or so friends each. If you start inviting this aunt but not that one or this cousin but not the other then feelings start getting hurt. If you keep it to immediate families then it makes it a lot easier for you to explain when people start asking about invites (because they will). 

Post # 5
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2017 - Valleybrook Country Club

I agree with PPs. Invite parents, grandparents, siblings, and closest friends. Otherwise, you’ll end up with a 200+ list. If this is not doable for you, then elope and maybe ask your parents/siblings to attend?

Post # 8
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2014

You could do immediate family, adults only. If it’s going to be this difficult though then I would reconsider eloping. 

Post # 9
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Busy Beekeeper

You are making this more complicated. Your aunt doesnt have to come because they live in the same town as grandpa. Your cousin doesnt have to come because he is “like” a sibling. 

Post # 10
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Sugar bee

Destination wedding? Invite everyone and they pay their own way to get there. Be ok if some can’t. 

Post # 11
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Bumble bee

I’m not sure how their house proximity is a factor here. Just invite immediate family without the kids. just because you invite your sister it doenst mean you have to invite someone who is like a cousin. and if you are all so close then the other cousins know that you have been raised together and therefore understand why only one cousin was invited.

Post # 13
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Bumble bee

What about parents, siblings (+small children), grandparents, and 2-5 friends each?

Your aunts are not in the same circle as your grandparents and your cousins are not in the same circle as your siblings.

Post # 15
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Buzzing bee

I will say, do a tiny destination wedding. I can’t remember where you were planning on eloping but I would go there. Do immediate family only since it’s your mom and sister who want the wedding. People either travel or they don’t but it’s just immediate family. Literally only parents, grandparents and siblings. 

I’m doing the tiny destination wedding option. I don’t want a 3 ring circus and I don’t want to pay for a 3 ring circus. This is why you were going to elope. Other option elope, just the three of you. Have the big crazy party after. 

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