(Closed) How do you deal?

posted 6 years ago in Fitness
Post # 3
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: December 2017

I deal with this all the time at work. It is so weird. I used to work in apparel where I was always one of the “largest” employees and I have moved into a different field where I am one of the “smallest”. 

You cannot change what people say. I know it is hard to let it just roll of your back but that is the only advice I have. Also, stop talking about healthy eating or workouts in front of anyone who makes these comments. I know it is a part of your lifestyle, but save it for someone who will appreciate all of your hard work and not drag you down!

Post # 4
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

People often mistake average with healthy or slender etc.

The US is not a slender bunch of people, so what may be slender is not the same as what people think of as slender.

Without knowing your end goal etc I dont know if you really are looking to be underweight for your height or just slender.

Assuming it is a healthy realistic goal, I would just say something politely “I know where I am most happy and healthy”

 

Post # 5
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1004 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

Nobody says that to me right now, because I am 15-20 pounds over the “ideal” weight for my height. However, I have a very small frame, so my *personal* ideal weight is borderline underweight according to BMI charts. So, a few years ago when I would mention cutting back on sweets or exercising more to lose a few pounds, people would tell me I was already “thin”.

Yes, I was still a size 2, but at 4’11” a size two is NOT very skinny. It is healthy, but at that weight I still carry extra pudginess in my stomach.

Most people CANNOT understand that *proportionally* a size 2 waist is very different on someone who is petite vs. someone average or tall height.

I have had friends get angry with me for wanting to lose 5 – 10 pounds, when I already fit in a size they consider “tiny”.

It is annoying.

Post # 6
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

I get it all the time. My highest was 122 and I would have considered myself chubby at the time (I’m only 4’10”). I lost 25lbs and still want to lose about 5 more. All I hear is that I need to stop losing weight. I am not by any means one of these stickly girls – at all. Certainly not a skeletor, hahaha. I mainly get it from people that could lose to stand a few pounds themselves and sometimes I feel like its almost out of jealously. Not that they are necessarily jealous of me, but jealous of a person that is getting healthy and in shape. I agree with a PP – being slim is not the norm in America anymore so to some people someone who is a healthy weight might be perceived as being too thin.

 

Most people CANNOT understand that *proportionally* a size 2 waist is very different on someone who is petite vs. someone average or tall height.

@MsBlackberry:  +1000. Exactly!!! I looked thick in the middle as a size 2, but someone who is tall and this size is very slender.

Post # 7
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

I don’t talk about my weight with anyone except Fiance – it’s no one’s business. I eat what I want and don’t justify it to those around me. I’m fortunate also that no one ever comments!!

Post # 9
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: April 2013

I get told this all the time!!!! Especially by my fiance lately. My wedding is on 32 days and its a destination wedding so I have tried my hardest to look my best for our upcoming wedding. I use my fitness pal and go to the gym about 5 days a week. I think I have lost about 7 pounds and tons of inches which I’m happy with but I would still like to lose more

Post # 10
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

@DeeVine1217:  Ugh. Don’t you want to just scream at people to mind their own business?!

I used to have people tell me, “you don’t need to workout” or “you don’t need to eat healthy” but I’m wondering do they just think I am naturally fit?! No! This shit takes work!

Usually when people say things to me I just give them a really bitchy fake “smile.” (I happen to be good at those.)

Post # 11
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

I have been dealing with this. I lost a lot of weight over the last year+ and now that I’m around my goal weight I am getting a lot of comments about beig too skinny. Granted the last 15 pounds have been in part to being depressed, unable to run, and medication, but I’m still a healthy weight. (5’10” and 138lbs). I’m mostly a size pant. I finally feel good about myself but everyone is so used to me being so much heavier that they think I am starving. And if I try to watch my portions and eat healthy, they think it is too obsessive. 

I am just ignoring everyone now, for the most part. I try to eat healthy, exercise and I have no intention of gaining weight back. As long as my running stays strong and I feel good about myself (and my dr says I’m fine) then I don’t care what anyone was says. 

Its hard, but you just have to ignore it. I’ve said a few times that jus because I’ve lost weight doesn’t mean I should be eating junk, but mostly I just do my thing. 

Post # 12
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259 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

@DeeVine1217:  Rude. Call them out on it. I’ve asked people to please not discuss my weight as I don’t discuss theirs. It’s my business what I weigh and I’m not about to discuss it!

Post # 13
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231 posts
Helper bee

@DeeVine1217:  There’s definitely polite ways to shut people up. And I’m not saying that these people necessarily deserve a nice reply, because it’s totally rude of them to begin with. However, the point is that you should find a quick way to end the topic. If you have to think ahead of time of the replies you can give, you should have no problem squashing the topic before it even starts. It sounds ridiculous to have to plan ahead in your head, but a lot of the times for me these comments come out of no where and caught me off guard, so thinking ahead has helped deal with this……

Unfortunately, I deal with this every.single.time I see certain people. And it gets old. Goodness, I could get SOOO into this topic, it’s not even funny….. This is a HUGE annoyance for me that I deal with regularly. If you need to vent anymore about this, I’m totally here!

Post # 14
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Helper bee

@emmalyn:  LOL! Love your reply. I get, “You don’t need to workout because you’re healthy. Why do you even bother?” Ummmm, hi. I’m earth, have we met? I appear fit so that means I don’t have a need to workout? I guess working out is only for people who need to lose weight. SILLY US!! We have been totally wrong about this silly working out idea!! (LOL)

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