(Closed) How do you deal when your SO’s in a bad mood?

posted 7 years ago in Relationships
Post # 3
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Bee Keeper

To be honest.. when he is in a bad moon I get pissed too lol We usually end up getting off the phone (we are LDR) and letting the proverbial dust settle. Then we are fine again!

Post # 4
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

If you mean ‘sad’ or down then I just be supportive and offer cuddles or a shoulder, if he has something to say I let him know that I’m there for him to “talk” 

If he’s distracting himself by playing a game or something I let him be. 

 

Post # 5
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2011

I tell him to let me know when he’s over it and go do my own thing.

ETA: Well first I ask if he’s hungry because that’s why he’s crabby 60% of the time

Post # 6
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

I try to cheer him up, but you’re right. If I just leave him alone for a while or if he plays video games or something, he usually comes out in a better mood 😀

Post # 7
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

Fiance has been a little down lately because his gram who he’s really close with has been in the hospital for almost 4 months, and it’s not getting better, plus he’s been grouchy about his job.  Usually I just listen to him talk, and try to point out the positives in life.  If he’s just mad, I don’t talk to him until he’s ready to talk.

Post # 8
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2010

I find it really irritating when i’m in a bad mood and my husband tries to be all sunshine and rainbows. I mostly like to be left alone. Or to be commisserated with. It’s so incredibly rare that my husband is in a bad mood…I guess I mostly leave him alone. Or, I try to do some of his housework, without him asking, to make sure he has time to take some space.

Post # 8
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

I try to feed him, and then if that doesn’t work I leave him alone until he comes around in a better mood!!!

Post # 9
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

Every guy is different I guess, my guy says he likes to be left a lone but if I call him or text him with encouraging words or a funny text he will cheer up very quickly and forget he was in a bad mood

Post # 10
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2009

When he is moody or just in a grumpy mood – I give him space. I’ll typically go out shopping or grab a meal with friends to let him chill by himself. He bugs me when hes grumy and he will usually start complaining about every little thing, so me leaving for a few hours is good for me too 😉

Post # 11
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

@bells: sometimes that works for me too! but it has to be the right kind of funny. If that even makes sense! Like, lolcats = bad funny. Hilarious movie quote we can’t get enough of = good funny.

Post # 12
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2010

Depends.  If he’s in a bad mood because of friction between us we’ll talk (or, uh, yell) it out and then revert to regular.

If he’s stressed about school, work, family, etc. I generally make him a nice snack, cook his favorite meal and suggest that he pick a movie.  Or, if he’s flipping out because he feels overwhelmed, I’ll pick up some slack so he doesn’t have house stuff on his plate.

Post # 13
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Worker bee

I don’t always handle it well when he is in a bad mood.  My family didn’t handle that type of thing well at all, so I’ve had a huge learning curve.  Additionally, my guy is really emotional (almost more than I am sometimes!) so he does get into moods at times, especially when he is under a lot of stress.  It depends on the issue, really, but if he seems irritable or down, I sometimes just give him some space to decompress on his own.  it also helps him to make sure he eats something and gets plenty of exercise, so sometimes I remind him to do those things if he seems “off”.  At one point, though, he told me that he would actually prefer it if I would ask him what’s wrong and help him get it out because sometimes he’s not the best at making it openly known when he needs to talk.  I’m learning to read him better, and to figure out when to push him a bit towards talking and when just to let him chill.  

When it’s something “between” the two of us, I think it’s better to get it out there, and to find the right time (if now is not the time) and just make the conversation happen and discuss it.  

If, on the other hand, it’s something school related, I’m more apt not to push as hard to discuss it, and just let him process.

Post # 14
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

It depends what kind of a bad mood he’s in. If he’s being a cranky pants just because I leave him be, if he’s down about something I try to do my best to cheer him up. Fiance is a simple creature – food, video games and sexy-time is usually enough to perk him up.

Post # 15
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

we come from families that deal with stress very differently–his family snaps at each other more easily, and then quickly forgive/forget without talking about it, whereas in my family we’re better at protecting each other from our own bad moods. so when he’s in a pissy mood about something, i get VERY sensitive about it if i feel like he’s taking it out on me. i probably get too sensitive, but his mood really affects me! so i usually deal by being very assertive and calling him out when i feel like the way he’s bitching about something is affecting me (not in a mean, yell-y way, just “hey, you sound like you’re mad at me, cool it buster” kind of thing). he usually wants to talk about things if he’s mad–then i listen and try to offer advice and try to help calm him down and find a productive way to address the issue. if he’s sad about something, he usually clams up; then i give him space but reassure him that i’m there if he needs to talk

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