(Closed) How do you deal when your SO’s in a bad mood?

posted 9 years ago in Relationships
Post # 16
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600 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2006

Give him s p a c e !  When guys are pissy or in a bad mood, it really makes me see that we are the stronger sex!  It’s like my SO’s world comes crashing down when he gets in a bad mood and the only thing that makes it go away is going to sleep at night and waking up the next day.  It’s sooo obnoxious.  I can get out of my bad moods through talking it out/venting or distracting myself.  Dudes?  They wallow around and have to press the reset button by sleeping 8 hours.  Poor guys.  He’s even told me, “I’ll be fine tomorrow, just let me be.”

Post # 17
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2522 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: December 2012

My ex would have wanted to be left alone…but my SO now? He’s a cuddler. When he’s upset about something, cuddling makes him feel all better! And thank God, really…I’m a serial cuddler! >:]

Post # 18
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510 posts
Busy bee

DH has kind of intense emotions, so there are definitely times when he’s grumpy or crabby… I used to take it personally, which didn’t really help and could sometimes lead to arguments.  Now I usually give him space and make some food… and he comes out of it pretty quickly and sometimes will want to talk.  It took me awhile to figure out this was the best approach, but it’s really helped us both since.

Post # 19
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1036 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

Space works for us, when he is grumpy and vice versa.  I totally agree though, I always ask if he wants something to eat first.

Post # 20
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6571 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: February 2010

Depends. If he’s just in a general bad mood, I try to cheer him up. But if he’s snapping at me for no reason bad mood, I leave him be until he appologizes to me. Usually he just needs some time and space.

Post # 21
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3010 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

I don’t talk to him.  I do ask if he’s okay, wants to talk, etc.  But if he’s not responding, then I keep to myself.

Post # 22
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1623 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

I do little things like walk up and start rubbing his shoulders. It usually gets him to relax a little bit. He is cuddly though so that may not work for everyone.

Post # 23
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1810 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

My FH is rarely in a bad mood. If he’s mad at me, we talk it out. If he’s upset about something else, we usually commiserate together and it makes him feel better to know that I’m by his side through all the BS. He doesn’t really wallow though– he moves on from things pretty quickly.

Post # 24
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3004 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 2010

Usually when Fiance snaps saying something to him doesn’t help anything so I just leave him alone until he gets happy. I let him have his time to pout and then hope he cheers up 

Post # 25
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3125 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: December 2017

My Fiance is very rarely in a bad mood, thats my role. If he does get a little irritated he either finds something to cheer him up by himself or I try and do whatever he wants to make life easier on him (do the dishes, take the dog out, etc(

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