Post # 31
You used to be happy. You can find yourself and be happy again, if you separate from him.
It is good that you noticed your feeelings before marriage. It is normal for abusers to lighten up if they think they are losing the person. Now you are beginning to wonder why you didn’t leave him earlier. It’s okay, you can still leave him now, just be careful.
Post # 32
Here’s the thing…he has sucked the happiness from your life. You feel like a different person now and you feel like you have lost your independence. That is SUCH a bad sign in a relationship. I know it is all you know, but trust us who have been in your shoes before — myself included — there are BETTER men out there. There are men out there who will allow you to maintain your independence and who won’t nitpick every flipping thing you do. There are WONDERFUL men out there. I know you love him and I know he is all you know…but this is abolutely NOT a healthy relationship.
Post # 33
I think it’s very clear from what you’ve written that you need to see a relationship counselor to make sure, after you’ve dumped this guy, that you get your emotional needs sorted out and never date another abusive person again.