Post # 91
if a woman came on here and claimed she was being cyber stalked because her ex looked at her best friend’s facebook page, people would laugh at her. So would law enforcement. That said, the term is sort of a joke where the use of the word stalking is an exaggeration.
OP, you’re not actually stalking anyone but this is unhealthy. No doubt having seen the face of evil up close you are traumatized and want to stop it everywhere. But you can’t stop it. People like your ex and his friend are everywhere. You will work with them, find them in a group of friends, etc.
you asked what to do spiritually. You need to cleanse your palate, so to speak. Find something good and beautiful to focus on ( animals can be good therapy for this). Focus on the people who do right in the world, who give or gave freely. There are just as many of them.
Now that your ex has done you the courtesy of familiarizing you with the signs of a person who abuses animals, you will never be fooled so easily again. You will know and you will avoid if possible. You need to focus on recovering from the trauma of being fooled and taken. Stop looking for signs of betrayal and lies in other people’s personal lives; I guarantee you one life of them is enough to deal with. And yes, stop checking up on anyone related to you ex because it is not good for you. It’s a rabbit hole of crap.
Shut the door, lock it and throw away the key.
Post # 92
Another thing worth noting is that we don’t know that Lily and Mark have consistantly been exclusive for the last six years. I know a couple that started dating in high-school (10 years ago) but broke up for almost three years while in college, and then were dating non-exclusively for a year after that. When people ask how long they’ve been together, they say 10 years flat. There’s just no way of knowing other people’s relationship circumstances.
Post # 93
carolinabelle: JESUS CHRIST, I AM NOT GOING TO CONTACT THIS WOMAN!!!!! I have said that from my first post. I don’t mean to yell at you, I am just sick of repeating it over and over again.
I asked this question because I wanted to vent and to hear about how other people handle these types of feelings emotionally and spiritually. Some of the advice has been wonderful, but hearing over and over that I shouldn’t contact her is not helpful.
I am not seeking revenge. There is no revenge I can have in this scenario. I do suspect that this woman has no idea who she’s marrying. She will find out, but not from me.
Post # 94
Annonnie89: I’ll be the first to admit that on occasion I creep on my exe’s page, thought it was more or less closely following our ugly breakup and I hoped he was miserable! I think it has more to do with everything not being fully resolved in your mind, and just a way to deal. As far as the Mark thing, honestly you’re probably allergic to these situations at this point, I bet it brings up a slew of horrible feelings like you’re living it all over again.
To be quite honest, I personally would want to warn her and if I was in her shoes, would appreciate a warning. Should you say anything? Definitely not. The best thing you can do is distance yourself from these people and move on. If the girl decides that she wants some advice, she might seek you out on her own. These things happen as well.
Most of us have been in this situation, and like I said, I completely distanced myself from everyone involved. It bugs me and so I stay away – and I’m pretty sure they’re still happy so good for them.
Post # 95
Okay, this thread seems to have gone pretty off track and has clearly run it’s course.
Closing this now for review.