(Closed) How do you deal with loud upstairs neighbors that make you crazy?

posted 5 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
278 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

I know EXACTLY what you are going through right now. Unfortunately I don’t have any advice because I don’t even know what to do myself.

I am a little extra angry in my scenario simply because our landlord promised us we could move in upstaires after she moved out. Then suddenly, we get a sob-story that her friend was living in his truck due to a break up and she rented it to him instead.

Except, he and his girlfriend (thought they broke up, dear landlord?) and three kids and 2 dogs have moved in upstaires. Not. Even. Kidding. So, we are looking for a new place but it’s near to impossible with a dog 🙁

The kids race across the floors all the time. My fiance said he resorted to banging on the ceiling yesterday when they were left home alone. The parents’ bedroom is directly above ours and we clearly hear them making babies on a regular basis. And when they are not home their two dogs bark NON-STOP. Simple act of my dog wagging its tail and hitting the side of the sofa will set these two off. 

It’s infuriating to me Yell

Post # 4
14486 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

That does suck, but if it’s squeaky floor boards, it’s really not their fault.  There is no quiet way to walk on squeaky floor boards not matter how slow or light you walk.  It’s either going to be a quick squeak or a loooong drawn out one.

Post # 5
7651 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2012

I would talk to the landlord since this may not be something you can control honestly. Even if they walk lightly it may still squeak and make noise.

Apts are squeaky, but not to the point where you can live comfortably. I don’t think it is so much your neighbors (and as annoying as they are I don’t think you can ask them to walk lighter or not do what they want to do at 11:30 at night) as it is your apt and maybe the landlord can fix that.

Post # 6
3170 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

When I lived in apartment a couple years ago I had the same problem. I swear our upstairs ‘neighbors’ would dance all night long super loud. There could not have been another reason there were so many footsteps at 3 in the morning. What’s really weird is they were an older couple but it ALWAYS sounded like they were either dancing or moving furniture. I drove me insane.

I didn’t do anything because I don’t want to create drama with neighbors (could always make things worse) but you could be the sweet little neighbor who brings cookies and says “Hey, i’m from downstairs and was wondering if you could maybe keep it down a little at night? Thanks!”. And then run away.


Post # 7
602 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2013

I feel your pain entirely.  My upstairs neighbour has just broken up with her boyfriend and is getting over him by having a string of noisy one night stands, coming in with random guys at 2 and 3 in the morning and her mattress is REALLY squeaky.  It’s frustrating.  I’ve started being a bit petty and stamping about slamming doors first thing lol.  I have tried to talk to this person but she is honestly impossible!

Post # 8
11752 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

Since it doesn’t sound like they’re doing anything but normal activity, there’s really nothing you can do. Unfortunately, that is just part of living in an apartment and you need to figure out ways to deal with it – be it studying and taking your exams at the library, etc.  Maybe you could see about moving to the top floor of the building. 

Post # 9
5475 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2012

@shrubfish09:  This SAME THING happened to me when I lived in my apartment.  I loved that apartment.  The thing is, there was a family of 4 who lived above me and every now and then I’d hear a noise, but it wasn’t bad at all.  Then, this other family moved in and right away, it was stomping, screeching, loud music, more stomping, banging, more stomping, their dog would dig at the floor in the room they locked him in, more screeching on the floor, and of course, more frickin stomping.

So, I bought a house. 

Not exactly a feasibly solution for everyone though :/  I also complained to the office, but that did exactly NO good whatsoever.  So, I moved out!

Post # 10
2559 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

I agree with PPs – squeaky floors is not really something your neighbors control. It’d be pretty unfair to ask them to tiptoe around – If I got a note asking me to treadly lightly in my own apartment, I would have to laugh it off and move on with my life. Seriously, they can’t change their entire gait for your comfort. You could probably ask the landlord about it though, maybe they’d be willing to figure out how to make it more acceptable to you (ie, redo the floors or something).

I empathize with you though – our apartments are old and have wood squeaky floors, and I’m pretty sure my upstairs neighbors’ favorite pastime is indoor bowling in their living room lol. I figure people routinely live near train stations and airports and busy streets, so we learned to live with this too. Just gotta adjust how much you allow it to bother you.

Post # 11
3947 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

It sucks, but it really is just how apartment living is.  it’s not their fault and if you’re not on the first floor, I’m sure the neighbors below you feel the exact same way!

Post # 12
3092 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

You can be like our old neighbors and call the landlord incessantly until we move out!  Seriously, it worked.

It was a pain in the ass, the floors were squeaky so we got the landlord called on us weekly.  It was a less than 600sqft apt so we never had people over.  We were very quiet and our downstairs neighbors made our lives and the landlords a living hell so we moved.

The landlord at one point said he’d get us a large area rug to help with the noise, but he never followed through.  You can ask your landlord about that maybe?

Or move?

Good luck!

Post # 13
3136 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2018

@shrubfish09:  I have to listen to my next door neighbors perform daily SCREAM karaoke- I totally get it. Unfortunately, this is just apartment living. The thing is, I bet they’re not even stomping. I lived under someone and had this issue and after I became friendly I texted her during a stompathon and she was like, I’m seriously just walking normally. It’s the floor and the acoustics. You can ask them to try to keep it down late at night, but there’s probably nothing they can do.

At night, I run a fan in my room to cancel out street and neighbor noise. It really does help. Can you try a noise machine? Or a nice big fan?

Post # 15
1224 posts
Bumble bee

I kind of understand your pain- I used to have a bedroom at the end of the hall and sound would travel from the livingroom to my room. It was bad- I could hear what was going on on the livingroom TV better than my parents could! My solution was getting an air conditioner for the white noise, so maybe you could try something like that. A couple of box fans or a white noise maker would keep a steady stream of background noise to (at least partially) drown out their racket. And I would also send a note requesting that they be quiet late at night.

Post # 16
602 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

kind of the price you pay for living in an apartment.

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