(Closed) How do you deal with opinions on names?

posted 6 years ago in Pregnancy
Post # 32
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

@bloodgo1:  How lame! Sorry you’ve had to deal with that. We have a name picked out for our baby we’re having this summer, but we’re not sharing yet. I usually deflect name questions by saying something along the lines of “oh we’re still working on it, we’re narrowing down what we DON’T want first and then we’ll figure out what we like!” For the most part it deters people from pushing further.

In the past I’ve had the experience of sharing what I thought was the *perfect* name with someone and their immediate response was “aww that’s such a little redneck name!” 🙁 So of course now I can’t even look at either one of those names without remembering that comment. My husband doesn’t get why I let other people’s comments bother me, but that’s the kind of person he is. He doesn’t give two craps about what other people think lol. 

Post # 33
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

@BrandNewBride:  I love this story! Hilarious! You’re right – at least one day you might have some good stories for you kids 😉

Like PP’s have said, this is why we’re not telling anyone! I made the mistake of telling two gf’s our girl name and one said “no one will be able to pronounce that”. My husband was born and raised in Ireland so we’ve picked Irish names. So yeah… um, everyone in his home country, which is where this child will be raised eventually, will be able to pronounce it. But I was so annoyed, she was the last person I told! No one else founds out now!

Post # 34
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2013

Simple… don’t say anything about names to anyone until the baby is born and the birth certificate is signed.

Post # 35
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2008 - A tiny town just outside of Glacier National Park

We tell people that we aren’t going to pick a final name until we meet her… and that’s the truth. But given our experience with sharing names on the “potential” list, I think I would say that even if it were a lie. People are horrible in their responses to names.

Post # 36
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

@bloodgo1:  Oh this is good. We’ve experienced something like this although we aren’t even married, yet. But I just smile and nod at everything everyone says and I say, “We’ll see” or “Oh it’s a while from now and we could like a hundred different names by then”. It’s kind of a nice way of telling people to shush. Your Mother-In-Law will get over it. Bravo to your Darling Husband for stepping up to his mom. Family can be really overbearing and overwhelming during life changing times. You either just have to grin and bear it and do what you want at the end or put an end to it and do what you want at the end. Either way, do what you want at the end. This is temporary! And congrats on your baby!

Post # 37
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

We thought about keeping our name choices a secret because we didn’t want to deal with people’s comments….not that it stopped the unsolicited advice, lol. We ended up telling people and I was amazed we didn’t hear more about our girl choice. It was a little unusual. (we didn’t find out baby’s gender, so we had to chose one of each) 

Post # 38
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

No real advice, but my husband has decided that we won’t tell our baby’s name until he’s born. I guess if people want to dispute his name at that point, there’s no going back 😉 I’m guessing your family will learn to like the name no matter what you choose.

Post # 39
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

“We will see what he/she looks like when he/she is born.  We will not be deciding before then.”

Post # 40
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Buzzing bee

SO and I aren’t pregnant or TTC, but we’ve decided that once we’re expecting, we’re not telling anyone the names we’re thinking of, or the name we decide on, until after our LO is born.

We figure people are less likely to tell you what they dislike about the name when it’s attached to a cute, tiny baby.

Post # 41
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

We decided to keep the baby’s name a secret till he’s born.

I actually got pissed at my mom because I wanted to wait till I sent out the 

baby shower invites to share the sex, but my mom could not hold it!

So im not even gonna tell her the name we have in mind. She’s mad!

We decided to not share the name yet because I feel like nowadays there’s 

just no mystery or surprise when having a baby. Everything is so public and inline

 that by the time the baby is born everyone already knows the sex, name and due date

before even announcing you gave birth! So the name is one thing we decided not to share.

I’ve been good at dodging the name questions.

Post # 42
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

When it comes to people’s opinions with names…. I just don’t tell them anymore! Keep it a secret 🙂 We don’t know if we’re having a boy or girl yet. We’re still deciding on boy names, but  I have a name picked out for a little girl that Darling Husband and I loooove. We told people at first and most liked it, then one friend wrinkled her nose and was like noo I don’t like that name! (who asked her anyways? haha!) There are SO many opinions out there. If you and Darling Husband decide on a name and like it, I say keep it to yourself! 

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