(Closed) How do you deal with people who are rude to you for no reason?

posted 7 years ago in The Lounge
Post # 3
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Honey bee

Depends who it is.

Someone like that I ignore.

Someone I deal with on a regular basis you call them out nicely. You say “I am sorry you seem to be having a bad day, but I would appreciate it if you would speak to me in a professional tone” People are stunned if you take that approach.

If you are sarcastic it only fuels their rudeness.

 

Post # 4
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2011

I normally visualize them getting run over by a bus and it puts me in a happy place. 🙂

Post # 8
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: December 2010

I used to get snippy when I was younger.  It’s hard not to when faced with that kind of situation. lol  But, I’ve finally learned to smile in the face of total rudeness and you know what?  It works.

I had to file a small claims lawsuit (which I won. Yay!) and take the paperwork to the Sheriff’s office so the beyootch who owed me money could be served.  The clerk there was vile.  She wouldn’t explain in plain English what I was supposed to do.  I had to ask her like 20 times to help me with the paperwork.  And that’s her job, btw. But I didn’t lose it and it was a good thing because at the end of it all, I needed one copy of something. And she was not going to let me use the copier behind her.

Which is where not being snarky to her finally paid off and I convinced her to let me use it that one time, which saved me a huge amount of trouble.  Besides which, it’s not usually personal-they’re that way to everyone.  Stay cool and you can bend them to your will.  Works every time:)

Post # 11
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: December 2010

@nontraditionalmiami: LOL. Oh, I have my share of ‘tude all right.  I can be like a bulldozer when I need to be.  I’ve browbeat many an unlucky customer service agent into giving me what I wanted, which has ranged from refunds to reversing overdraft fees and giving me a lower interest rate. It’s really an art form at this point.

I’m currently doing battle with T-Mobile to get them to drop my early termination fee. And they will:)

Post # 13
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Honey bee

Can I also add, that people have bad days. Remember that. Maybe someone just got a divorce, or hasnt been laid in 6 months by their boyfriend, or mom is terminally ill. And you being nice can make a difference in that person’s day. Or at the least, you won’t make it worse.

Sometimes, being the first one to be nice or just non-responsive sets the tone for an interaction. Inadvertently we come across as rude, even if we are just “thinking about something else”. We react to each other.

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