Post # 1
I’m getting married on May 22, and as the date draws closer I’m starting to feel some anxiety building. I know pre-wedding jitters are completely normal, but I was wondering how other bees cope with that nervous feeling. I’m not nervous about anything related to wedding planning, and it’s not second thoughts, it’s just…constant butterflies in my stomach. The occasional tightness in my chest.
I should add, I’m also have a difficult decision to make coming up in the near future. I’m going to start my Bachelor of Education in the fall, and can either go to a small school in the Maritimes (very close to where my Fiance was raised) or to a larger school in Ontario (Queen’s University, which is a short drive from my home in Ottawa). Either way, we have to leave the small town where we’ve been living (I’ve been here almost five years, he’s been here almost seven) and it’s a tough call to make.
Any suggestions or tips for coping with axiety?
Post # 3
I think I can relate a little. My Fiance recently relocated to Saint Louis from Denver and has been wanting to take time to house hunt in the middle of wedding planning. I managed two weeks before I told him I thought my brain was going to explode if I seriously had to deal with that on top of wedding planning.
Presumably one of the benefits of being married is that you don’t have to make big life decisions alone. Your Fiance can hopefully be a sounding board and a partner in helping you make this big decision.
Is there any way the school decision can wait until after your wedding? If you can delay it, great and then don’t worry about it until you have to worry about it.
If it can’t wait until after the wedding, if I were you I’d want the decision made ASAP. I’d take a weekend with the Fiance, visit both the schools, look at other quality of life factors, sit down, make a list, and make a decision you can both be happy with. Then move on! Yes, it’s a big decision but there will be pros and cons either way, and it’s not the last big decision you’ll make as a couple. Try and put it in perspective!
If you’re a praying person, or even if you’re not, prayer can help, too.
Post # 4
whenever i got anxious that the wedding was getting closer, it always helped to stop planning for a little bit. not thinking about the wedding seems to help!
Post # 5
I drink this stuff called “natural calm”. You can get it at whole foods or on drugstore.com. Seriously…it works. Will help you sleep better at night too.
Valium is another viable option.
Post # 6
I have an amazing fiance who has to remind me occasionally when I am getting too worked up over the details. We’re getting married and at the end of the day, I’ll be a wife for much longer than the one day I’ll be a bride. Hugs, kisses, and yummy food don’t hurt either 😉
I think it’s important to give yourself some Not Wedding Related time and hobbies to relieve your stress.
Post # 7
Thanks guys, I really appreciate the advice. With regards to the university decision, it has to be made by early April, but thankfully I’ve narrowed it down to two choices. I have also signed up for an Aquafit class, which I know is a great way for me to de-stress and feel great about my body.
@Beachbrideamy, I haven’t tried natural calm, but I’m going to start a bedtime ritual with herbal tea to relax. And I hear you on the valium. I’ve never tried it, but I want something that will take the edge off the night before the big day! (I’ll probably stick to Xanax, since I know how my body reacts to it.)
Post # 8
hey thanks for this question – i’ve heard of the natural calm and need to look for that myself…
i’m 3 months out and the anxiety is rediculous. 🙁
Post # 9
Hey date twin! I am just keeping myself as busy as possible. Ive noticed that whenever I sit at home alone and just think about it I go crazy! Take loongg hot showers a night and try to still do the things I normally do that arnt “wedding” related. I also like watching movies that have nothing to do with weddings. I have actually told my Fiance I hope this is my ONLY wedding because I dont think I will survive all the anticipation the next time around! lol
Post # 10
Excersize helps me alot. I gym it about three times a week but I go to clear my mind… it definately works.