Post # 1
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513 posts
Busy bee
DH and I have officially scheduled an appointment with an RE…but it isn’t for two months. DH told a few people at work (his boss and co-workers since he works a job that calls for him to be out of town quite a bit and he needed to explain why he can’t leave as much) and everyone seemed to just want to throw pity parties. A few of my co-workers know, and they all give “that” look. The one that says, “Oh no, poor things…”
I didn’t want to tell ANYONE because I knew this is what would happen. I find people throwing pity our way almost makes it worse. Anyone else deal with this?
Also. I’m watching Teen Mom 2 and I’m just sick over the fact that Jenelle, a former herion addict, has gotten pregnant a total of FOUR TIMES. -___- really, universe?
Post # 3
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5496 posts
Bee Keeper
I know exactly what you mean. Luckily for me, I had a few close co-workers who were all going through the same thing (and went through IVF around the same time as me, too) so we bonded over it and supported each other. I guess now that they know, just keep quiet about it if you prefer so that you don’t get any more pity looks or comments. But maybe you’ll find it helps to get support from them in the future? If not, just keep everything from here on our more vague. “Thanks, it is going well….” then change the subject. Good luck at the RE!
Post # 4
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669 posts
Busy bee
Ugh. I feel your pain, lady! While people are trying to be empathetic and supportive, it really does make me feel worse…like I’m defective or something. What also annoys me–which, again, people are just trying to be supportive–is when people say, “Oh, it will definitely happen. Just give it time!” Like WHAT! No one knows if it will happen, and I have been giving it time…duh! Again, I completely realize people say such a thing to have something to say, to be nice, but it just so doesn’t help. And, really, what can they say? I don’t think anyone can say anything to make me feel better, really.
I have an appt with a new OB in March. I’m curious to see what this doc has to say…I want her to be the one to recommend me to an RE. I hope you get answers fast as a result of going to an RE! That’s actually exciting; they are the experts that can really help you. I’m sure we’ll be talking again, but best wishes in the meantime 🙂