(Closed) How do you deal with this work situation?

posted 5 years ago in Career
Post # 3
3572 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

This is not allowed at my workplace thank GOD!  I think it’s really tacky to do that kind of thing at work.  Cookies are supposed to be sold by kids, door to door, not by adults, desk-to-desk.  My only advice I guess is to stand firm.  It’s your choice to say no.  They can be jerks about it or move on.

Post # 4
4416 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

I think I would just start saying no to EVERYTHING. Before long, they will get the hint that you are not going to pony up and they will stop asking. Maybe you’ll get a reputation as a miser, but that’s better than ending up fat and broke! I always say “no” to all the girl scout cookie vendors at the office and then buy them from the girls outside the grocery store. What my coworkers don’t know won’t hurt them 🙂

Post # 7
1245 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

It happens at my workplace too.  I started saying no to everything, and at first my co-workers kept asking me, but now they know I won’t contribute so they don’t even bother.  I still get the emails addressed to everyone, but at least the in person solicitations have stopped.

I don’t care if people think I’m cheap.  I did explain to one coworker that seems to be the major one to ask for money, that I just cannot afford to pick and choose, so I just say no to everything.  She was fine about it and just moved on to the next person.  For all I know she can be talking behind my back but whatever.

And I do have to say, the solicitations really have slowed down the last couple of years.  I think so many people complained to management that they had to do something.  Now, we can only solicit if it is something for the coworker themselves, like a bridal gift or a baby gift.  Maybe it will eventually be like that in your office too.

Post # 8
11234 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2013

@iarebridezilla:  This.

This happened last Christmas. They wanted to pool money to get our branch manager (who makes 6x what I do) a gift certificate. I said no, I have a wedding to pay for, and I make almost nothing an hour. I see no reason to contribute. They ended up just throwing a bunch of cash into a card wtf.

Post # 9
2565 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

We have a policy against that, thankfully.  It was really bad at a few places I worked at previously.

Post # 11
3081 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

Is it something you CAN talk to management about? If management is doing the asking, then probably not…but unless it’s going to be something that you personally take a stand against (which is fine), then management really needs to be the ones to control it. 


Post # 12
2966 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

@MrsPanda99:  Ooh. That’s tough. See, we do this here too but we have a department of 20 people, and we only do birthdays. The occasional engagement or marriage too, but mainly just birthdays. 

We give $2 every time (before we would contribute $2 every paycheck, so every other friday, but that’s over finally). The money results in a card and either bagels or cookies. 

$15 sounds a little much. WTH. 

Sorry for rambling but my only advice would be to simply point out (when they come up to you again) and you cannot make the contribution but you will support her from afar (emotional support doesn’t sound like the right word, but something along the lines of celebrating in your heart/head rather than just shelling out money…does that make sense?)

Post # 13
7219 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2015

@MrsPanda99:  Oh man. I hated that shit when I worked in a large office. I vote just always, no matter what, say no. Or you don’t have cash and left your checkbook at home. Or you’re Johovah’s Witness. Just no no no. 

I once got out of a potluck at work (potlucks at that office were INSANE because this one lady coordinated them & made it hell) by claiming I couldn’t because it was a Friday during Lent and I had to fast. I actually am Catholic but just didn’t want to join in cause Potluck Nazi was insane. When she tried to get me on the next holiday I said I’d become more traditional and now fast EVERY Friday. It got kind of hilarious when she “caught me” eating the next Friday and I looked horribly ashamed and talked about how it was such a struggle to be faithful and now I’d have to go to confession. 

Man I was happy when she got so out of control they banned potlucks!

Post # 15
3340 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2013 - Rhode Island

Wow.  You’d think they’d get the hint.  I’m sorry you have to deal with this.

My workplace is similar, but I’ve never felt pressure to contribute.  If I don’t respond, they assume that means no.  Certainly no one has ever pressured me in person!  Ugh.

Do you have a union?  Maybe you could follow up with them or HR about it.  It seems like this kind of thing isn’t allowed in a lot of places.  Maybe you can get them to ban it at your workplace too.

Post # 16
1144 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

We have a policy against it, but it isn’t really enforced. There’s one lady who sells jewelry, and has gotten to where she just leaves a couple of pamphlets lying around with her contact information. Used to have a co-worker that was always bringing order forms for her kid – thankfully our manager put a stop to that, especially when she started asking customers

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