- 4 years ago
- Wedding: September 2017
F*king Ron Weasley, needs to get his shit together, I always say. 😉
But in all honesty, OP – I would take a breath here and try to see things from his perspective, which it seems you are willing to do, so that’s good. I’d echo what a couple PP’s have said, which is that the length of time you guys have been dating does not support fretting over possible commitment issues yet. Also, it’s a pretty big deal for most people to go from living alone to living with another person. Even when you’ve been spending a few nights a week together already.
My bf will be moving in with me in a few months. I love this man to death, he stays over every weekend, I’ve known him for 15 years, and I’ve lived with another person before (my ex husband). And even I am apprehensive because I love having MY space so much. And I am someone who never thought I’d be ok with living alone. On balance of course I’d prefer to have him here. But just wanted to point out, this kind of transition is not easy for everyone, and people are going to have different timelines they’re comfortable with.
As to feeling out of control and no compromise – is he otherwise unwilling to compromise on things in your relationship? Because I could see why he’d want to be able to surprise you with a proposal. That part doesn’t necessarily mean he wants to disregard you. You both should obviously have conversations about when the appropriate time to take that step would be.
But try not to feel like you have no control in the relationship just because he wants to move at a slightly slower pace. I’m not sure that’s fair to him. It doesn’t seem to have gone on long enough to be able to classify his behavior as stringing you along, and I’m sure that’s not his intention.