(Closed) How do you dress when going to someone else's place of worship?

posted 4 years ago in The Lounge
  • poll: What do you wear?
    Regardless of formality, I always go with "Sunday's Best" : (10 votes)
    26 %
    I tend to be overdressed : (2 votes)
    5 %
    I tend to be underdressed : (0 votes)
    Formality doesn't matter, I wear whatever I feel like. : (1 votes)
    3 %
    I just follow their lead as far as formality goes : (25 votes)
    66 %
    Other : (0 votes)
  • Post # 3
    6365 posts
    Bee Keeper

    I try to wear what’s appropriate. I will err on the side of more modesty if unsure. I’m not religious but I wouldn’t want to offend people that are in their own religious space.

    Post # 4
    232 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: October 2014

    I’m Wiccan myself but the few times I have gone to church services as part of a family thing or wedding, christening I have dressed appropriate to the place. formal /semi formal and modest. Despite me not sharing their beliefs I still want to share a mutual sense of respect for their place of worship and each other in general it’s simply polite and what I would expect from anyone who comes along to a Wiccan ceremony.

    Post # 5
    4594 posts
    Honey bee

    I’d wear more or less what I’d wear to my own church – modest, business casual-y, unless the person I was going with told me otherwise. For Christmas and Easter, though, I’d definitely be pulling out my nice dresses and heels. 

    Post # 6
    9380 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: September 2015

    I think when youre a guest (in a house, church, country etc) you adhere to your hosts attire standards with in reason. 

    ie when traveling in Islamic countries Im not wearing a burka, but Ill dress modestly and throw on a hijab when in houses of worship. 

    Post # 7
    3221 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: April 2015

    @HonoraryNerd:  I do my best to dress appropriately for every occasion, and that includes going to someone’s place of worship. I’ve never been to Mass at any church and would need to google what appropriate attire would be, but I’d certainly put forth the effort to look presentable.

    Honestly, this seems like a lost art these days. I just had my engagement party and my FI needed to call each of his hipster friends to make sure they knew what formal dress required. I wouldn’t have cared if anyone showed up in jeans (I’d still love my FI’s buddies), but it’s a refreshing sign of respect for the occasion to dress accordingly.

    Post # 8
    472 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: March 2014

    @HonoraryNerd:  I’m an atheist, but when I attend church with family members or for a friend’s wedding/christening/funeral, I dress comparably to the parishioners of that church. In the same way that if I went to a holy site elsewhere in the world where covered heads and shoulders were expected, I would do that.

    It’s not about showing respect to the other person’s god/s, which obviously a non-member does not worship and/or believe in, it’s about showing respect to the other people there. You don’t have to be a Catholic to behave graciously towards Catholics (and you can substitute any other faith or culture for Catholic in that sentence and it holds true). 

    Post # 9
    2974 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: September 2012

    i always get a little dressed up and dress modestly- no mini skirts and my back/shoulders are always covered. if i wear jeans they’re a nice dark wash- no dirty/distressed denim.

    my mom taught us to always dress appropriately for church (if it matters, we’re catholic) and i can’t believe some of the things people wear sometimes- clothing with holes, t-shirts with inappropriate “artwork”, bras exposed.

    when i saw pictures from my wedding ceremony and saw what some of our guests were wearing, i was mortified- strapless mini dresses, cleavage…my church is very conservative and i felt like i needed to call them afterwards and apologize for my guests’ lack of respect/common sense

    Post # 10
    4607 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: March 2014

    I tend to wear a longer and more modest dress with a cardigan if it’s a morning service. For a Wednesday or Sunday night service or more casual gathering, I tend to wear black or grey pants with a nice shirt. I have sometimes worn jeans since FH’s church does sometimes have church on Friday night, but I always stick to a nicer top. 

    Post # 11
    1962 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: October 2013

    I’d wear whatever I wanted, within reason.

    Post # 12
    1592 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: March 2014

    I try to at least wear dress pants but I don’t go to regular services. You can wear jeans at my family’s Catholic church but I babysat for & went to church with a mormon family all the time. They wore dressy clothes.

    Post # 13
    4528 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: April 2015

    I err on the side of conservative and formal. Nothing too revealing, nothing too casual.

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