(Closed) How do you even start planning?

posted 9 years ago in Waiting
Post # 3
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2009

*lol* You’re not psycho! Even though I’ve ordered a numbe rof things I still look through all the possbilities and dream!

The best first step in narrowing it down is deciding on what style or theme you want – and then how much you’re able/willing to spend getting there!

 

 

Post # 4
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Bee Keeper

I started by finding one thing to focus on, the one thing I really wanted, and built my wedding and accessories around it.  For me that was my venue.  Outdoors, mountain view, very earthy but joyous.  I went from that to centerpieces, to colors, to the tone of the wedding (laid back) to invites and so on!

Post # 5
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513 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 1969

We started by figuring out where we wanted to get married. Then depending on the venue’s availability and our photographer’s availability (one of our photogs is my uncle who conveniently is a wedding photog) we started from there.

Depending on the venue you choose… many of the venue’s have a preferred vendor list. So then you just go down the list: caterer (which involves tastings in some cases), officiants (interviews- unless you are using one you like/know), then musicians/dj…. 

Go in order of what is a priority to you and your fiance. Like if there is a special place- book it first. Or if you want a particular special date- work on that…. everything else falls into place after awhile.

(but it is overwhelming after you get engaged and start trying to figure out where to start)

Post # 6
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445 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2009

We started by imagining what we wanted the day to be like.  Like, the overall look.  No details yet, just general ideas.  Then we each made a list of the top things that were important, then we talked about them and made sure those things stay.  That was HUGE because now each of us knows what is important to the other person. 

Post # 8
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 1969

Sounds like a good plan. We happened to fall onto our venue without really expecting to. The week he proposed we were on vacation and wanted to check out a winery- when we showed up on the property we fell in love with it and in passing said to each other "this would be a great place to get married!" And then after the proposal, and back in our hometown, nothing in our home area really fit us- and nothing lifted a candle to the place we had visited while on vacation. So we booked the venue!

Post # 9
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606 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2009

I started by envisioning the feel and theme of my wedding, and decided what I would need to do to get there. It helps to definte specifically what makes the atmosphere you want your wedding to have. Then take note of those elements. The first thing you need to book is your location, then your dress though. Venues have waiting lists, and dresses sometimes have to be ordered and can take as much as 6 to 8 months to order sometimes!

I wouldn’t order anything until you’re actually engaged though! I had more inspiration images than I could humanly use by the time I got engaged. hehe 

Oh! Make inspiration boards! Polyvore! 

Post # 10
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2004 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 2008

A lot will fall into place if you can find yourself a venue first. To do that, obviously you need to decide where you’ll get married (what city/state/country), at what time of year, and what type of place.

All other decisions on colors, decor, etc, are so much easier when you have the specific place in mind. Even decisions about your dress can be affected by the venue decision, depending on how formal/casual it is.  

Post # 11
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2009

I didn’t realize how much I had already had in my head by the time I started planning, but I didn’t have a theme or colors in mind (consciously).  My aunt told me to look through pictures of dresses, flower, etc (you can use the gallery to do this here now) and pick out the pictures I liked.  At the end of the day, I had picked ideas enough to make a theme and color scheme with! 

You’re not psycho for looking at things. Just start to get ideas and don’t feel rushed to make every decision right away. 

Post # 12
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94 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: December 1969

You have to figure out how many people you’re going to have before you decide on a venue.  Then find your venue… then all the other big stuff– caterer, florist, photographer, dj, dress… then you can do all the other little things like programs, favors, bridesmaid dresses, tuxes, etc…

Weddingbee was extremely helpful to me as well as Project Wedding (has reviews of different vendors in your area from real brides, lots of pictures).  Style me pretty (stylemepretty.com) has some pretty pictures of color palettes.  There’s SOO much information out there but if you ask questions on the boards on weddingbee or even do a search, you can find a lot.

Post # 13
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2009

Ok. You’re not psycho! Just confused. Lol. Which is exactly what I was in Feb. when I became engaged.

I didn’t even buy a single magazine at first. What I did was, search the internet and save every single picture that I thought I liked. I ended up with a folder that had like a thousand pictures! I created a flickr, uploaded my very favorite pictures, and I just kind of looked at them all the time! 

I found WeddingBee, which was the best thing ever for me to find! I started looking through magazines at the bookstore, found which ones I loved, and bought them. I found out the library is an amazing resource for any book on weddings you can imagine. 

I really just now started narrowing it down to what I like about a couple weeks ago. What I thought I loved completely changed! Lol. It’s fun. 

I deleted lots of pics from my flickr to update it with my changing tastes. … basically that’s what I’m doing!

Have fun.

Post # 14
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: January 2012

You aren’t psycho: I’m pretty sure most of the ladies here have a folder w/ saved inspirational photos 🙂

We started by thinking about the type of wedding we wanted. Big, small, intimate & quiet, a blowout party, etc. Then the other details sort of fall into place once you know what kind of event you will be hosting.

And be prepared: you’re going to change your mind 100 times. It’s part of the process! Have fun with it & don’t stress too, too much!

Post # 15
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Newbee
  • Wedding: May 2011

in my opinion, you should start with the  ceremony and then work up from there. Also, what theme you would like and your colors…I dont even know how many times I have changed our colors, my fiance asked if he even gets a choice in the colors…lol….but thats where I started anyways…we got engaged in Bermuda so it was kinda easy for me to decide what i wanted to do, i knew that i wanted to tie inour engagement into the wedding, so we are having a beach themed wedding…we are getting married into a catholic church though. Best wishes

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