- 9 years ago
- Wedding: June 2010
Hello Fellow Bees,
FH popped the question about 3 months ago & we immediately dived into wedding planning, figuring out what style of wedding we both wanted, which aspects needed to be top priority (like my faith, & for him, a unique only-we-can-provide-it experience), and which aspects are just fluff to us (like towering centerpieces or a live band). A HUGE aspect of this planning for us was figuring out the budget – what we can afford & how we’re going to pay for the wedding of our dreams, especially because we’re footing the whole bill ourselves.
After running through the numbers & long discussion about what is important to us for our wedding, we set the date, booked the sites, & put the deposit down. Now I’m dealing with the aftermath – the fact that our meaningful, unique, faith-honoring wedding only allows us to invite 80 people max. This isn’t a problem for FH, his family is quite small compared to mine – my father is one of 6, my mother one of 8. How do I tell half my father’s siblings & all but two of my mother’s siblings (and their grown children – my cousins, who are the equivalent of my siblings since I’m an only child), plus all of my grandmother’s siblings & their kids & grandkids, that they are NOT invited? These people are not unimportant to me & I’d like to find a way to tell them how important they are without needing to attach this importance to an invite to my wedding. We just can’t afford to invite them all.
Have any of you bees had this problem? How did you show people you still love them without inviting them to your wedding?