(Closed) How do you feel about a Cake and Punch Reception?

posted 7 years ago in Reception
  • poll: How do you feel about a cake and punch reception?
    They're great and affordable. : (83 votes)
    50 %
    Terrible to treat your guests that way. : (27 votes)
    16 %
    Okay, I guess. : (54 votes)
    33 %
    Obligatory Other. : (2 votes)
    1 %
  • Post # 3
    3254 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: October 2011

    Personally, I would be okay with it, but I’m pretty easy to please. Are you wanting to do it this way to save $$?

    I would make sure that if you do that, you make it clear on the invitation that it will only be cake and punch and don’t have it right at meal time or people will hurry away to get food. 

    Post # 4
    2584 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: June 2012

    What time of day would it be at? You’d want to make sure your guests can go somewhere to eat a full meal, and that food would be nearby.

    Post # 6
    3254 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: October 2011

    @beekiss: I think that’s totally acceptable. If your Future Mother-In-Law wants to do something with your FH’s family later, then let her and be confident in your decision to only have cake and punch. I’ve been to weddings like this before and didn’t sense any hostility or disappointment among guests.

    Post # 7
    5778 posts
    Bee Keeper

    I’ve never been to a wedding where there was less than a full dinner, so based on that, I’m not sure how happy I’d be having only cake and punch. I might only stay an hour if I was hungry, and I KNOW my husband wouldn’t be too happy!

    Post # 8
    5654 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: April 2011

    I think it’s TOTALLY acceptable and your Future Mother-In-Law is just trying to be passive aggressive in not getting what she wants.

    We did a brunch wedding and I think we could’ve totally gotten away with just doing a cake/punch reception and it would’ve said quite a bit of money AND stress. lol

    Do what works for you and your FH and let anyone else just deal with their own issues

    Post # 10
    10714 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: June 2012

    I think they are very personal and cute. I like cake and punch events in general (wedding or not).

    Post # 11
    2142 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: July 2011

    Now that I’ve had a full dinner reception, in hindsight I would have been just as if not more happy with cake and punch (with lots of cake, I like cake and even with a very unset stomach managed to have cake at my own wedding despite passing my dinner off to DH)
    I say go for it!

    Post # 13
    1036 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: September 2011

    Totally acceptable, just make sure that the invite lets guest know that it is not a full reception, and don’t have it at meal time.

    We are doing cocktails only, and no one in my family has said anything negative about it.

    Post # 14
    2373 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: July 2008

    I think it depends on what’s important to you and how you. For me, I love food. My family celebrates significant events with a good meal. For me personally, I’d rather cut my guest list to almost nothing and have a meal in a nice restaurant with my nearest and dearest than have more people and not have a meal.

     But I also I don’t think there’s anything wrong with cake and punch receptions.

    Post # 15
    200 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: August 2011

    It sounds like your Future Mother-In-Law is being a passive-aggressive martyr.  No one is *asking* her to provide dinner for your fiance’s family, and presumably they are all adults (or at least with their parents if they’re not) and are therefore probably quite used to securing their own food most days.  So she’s creating work for herself and then passing the resentment along to you, which is just…. “silly and counterproductive” would be the most diplomatic words for it.

    Sounds like her children have the right idea:  Ignore her when she does it.

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