(Closed) How do you feel about a courthouse wedding?

posted 5 years ago in Ceremony
Post # 3
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

Personally I don’t have a problem with them. We even considered going to the courthouse ourselves and just having a fancy dinner for family at a nearby restaurant. However, my mom got married at the courthouse for her 1st marriage and she was absolutely against it when I mentioned that we might do it that way. She said something like, “you’re going to be walking in to get married, while criminals are sitting around waiting for their court appearances.”

Now, I know they wouldn’t be “real” criminals at this courthouse. It would have been people going in for traffic tickets and small offences – not murderers and such, but it still kind of gave me bad vibes. :-/

 

Anyway, you can certainly do something more intimate and personal for FAR less than $50,000. What about a small ceremony in a park, your backyard, the beach, etc? Then you can still just have everyone go to dinner at a restaurant.

Post # 4
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

There are some that I see on wedding blogs that are just absolutely adorable. Just about 10 people that go with them to the ceremony, and about 20-30 that go to the reception (usually at the house or the restaurant). I think there is something quaintly sweet about them, not to mention less stress, less money, and more intimacy.

I think if you want more that just going to the courthouse, though, I would say your Fiance should really try opening up to the idea. Otherwise, I think you might end up resenting him. You don’t want to look back at your wedding day that way.

Also if you do go this route, see if you have a photographer friend that would be happy shooting for you as a gift or on a small budget… photos really are important. People keep saying that, but it is true.

Post # 7
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

 

@Future_MrsReeves:  I have seen some super cute courthouse weddings on blogs and such so I wouldn’t let my crazy comment completely throw you off. If you go to google images and just search ‘courthouse weddings’ you’ll see that there are some that are really nicely done.

 

Post # 9
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: March 2012

My parents had a courthouse wedding, my mom had three kids already and needed the money they would have spent on wedding/honeymoon for food/clothes/apartment and their new baby.. me.  Maybe he sees different ways to spend that kind of money. I don’t know if you guys finished school?  Or are saving for a house?  He might think those are better ways to spend money.  You should has him why he wants the courthouse wedding.

 

FWIW Darling Husband & I got married in the courthouse, laws in our state make marriage not legal unless preformed by clergy or clerk of the court.  It was so pretty, we didn’t think to take pictures because we had our “wedding” that night.  But the flowers were in bloom and there were only five of us there.  You should look thru wedding bee, some of the courthouse recaps are really pretty. 

Post # 10
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

@Future_MrsReeves:  

I think the best way to convince him is to talk to him, which I’m sure you’ve done, but get him alone one night, and make sure he knows it is a serious conversation… do not have this conversation while he is doing something else… like t.v. or whatnot.

I would then tell him that I felt a small, inexpensive ceremony would be better for you than no ceremony at all. That you have been hoping to have this day for a long time, that you feel so lucky to have someone that you want to share your life with, but you don’t want to miss out on this part of it. I think it can’t hurt to bring up how much nicer it will be for your parents to have even a little ceremony/reception (parents think about their kids weddings, too!), and how it could be good for the kids to see a visual representation of how important their parents relationship was (not sure how solid this one is, but, hey, trying to convince, right?).

Post # 11
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

We are doing a court house wedding, although the court house is gorgeous!  We are having a casual party in our yard afterwards with our closest friends and family members.  I’m still getting a dress (something vintage or vintage-inspired, tea length), but our budget is mostly going towards an amazing honeymoon.

Post # 12
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838 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2008

Here’s the funny thing. Even if you have your wedding with the suit and tie (which he can still wear) and your jaw dropping ivory dress, the ceremony itself won’t be much more than a 10 minute “I do.” You just won’t have all the extra fluff (readings, a million people walking down an aisle, etc.). 

 

You’re young and you have 2 kids. I’m with Michael on this one. There are much better, more important things to spend thousands of dollars on. Go for it!

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