(Closed) How do you feel about Adopting a child of a different race

posted 6 years ago in Parenting
Post # 3
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

I would (were we to have children at all) and I wouldn’t want to specify ethnicity.

Post # 4
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Buzzing bee

Hm. You subject heading and the question in your post seem to be completely separate, but I’ll answer both.  Yes, I would consider adoption even though I can have my own children (I hope).  And if I were to adopt, I’d be open to a child of any race or ethnicity.  However, I’m not sure that my SO would be.  I think as long as you make an effort to make sure the child identifies with and understands his/her own race/ethnicity then it can work just fine.

Post # 5
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

Probably not. If I don’t have to expose myself to stares, questions and racism, I’d rather not. I don’t think I would adopt at all if I could have my own kids anyway.

Post # 6
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

I’ve always wanted to adopt. There are many people in my life that have adopted children of various races for various reasons. 

I’ve never been pregnant, haven’t had any issues, so I assume I’m capable of having kids naturally, but I guess you can’t be sure until you start trying. 

If we do ever adopt, I do not think I would specify race. 

Post # 7
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2010

Can’t WAIT to do it!  HECK YES!

Post # 8
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

I would in a heartbeat. This crossed my mind many times during my ttc struggle and I would be willing to love and care for any child that needs it:)

 

Post # 9
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2012

I would consider both (adopting and adopting a child of a different race).  I would be more likely to adopt a child of Asian decent if I had to go outside of my own race, but I have a LOT of Asian friends, many of whom still speak their native languages.  I feel like it would be important for the child to grow up and be around people who look like him or her.  It isn’t necessary to their development obviously, but I can see where it might be beneficial.  I wouldn’t rule out any race though.

Post # 10
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

I wouldn’t just because I know how cruel people can be. While adoption is beautiful a white family with a little hispanic boy would earn me some funny stares.

Post # 11
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2009

I would, definitely. Race would not matter to me, and it would be a great excuse to learn about another culture 🙂

Post # 12
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

Honestly, I would rather adopt than have my own children. Race plays no factor.

Post # 13
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: January 1993

Probably not. If we can’t have children naturally, we would adopt, but we would adopt within race. Personally, I just feel that is much easier on the child. Other children (and adults) can be cruel. I wouldn’t want to subject them to constant questions of why they look different, asking who their father is, etc. And yes, it would likely be easier on Darling Husband and I as well.

Post # 14
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Bumble bee

Being the product of that I would not. Even though I am mixed, my biological mom is caucasian and my adoptive parents are caucasian, it was a pain in the ass always trying to explain to kids who parents never exposed them to different cultures ect. Even explaning to teachers why I am darker complextion than my parents. 

It also made me feel that I NEVER belonged anywhere because I NEVER looked like anyone in my family.

At least when you have a mixed family, your child can associate to more than likely at least one parent. I could not; not with both parents being caucasian.

Post # 15
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: January 1993

@Mrs McCain 2012:  duh, that was my main point and I forgot it! The child not feeling like they ‘belonged’ to us, if they bore no resemblance whatsoever.

Post # 16
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

Um yes, I would, if I were to ever adopt. What the hell is race anyways. It’s just an illusion. We’re the same effin thing, with just different exteriors. UGH!

And how the hell are we to overcome such trivial issues if we can’t start accepting that fact in the here and the now, with every concious decision we make.

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