(Closed) How do you feel about bathroom valets?

posted 5 years ago in The Lounge
Post # 3
2522 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

Nope.  I have a difficult time going when other people are going in and out of the bathroom, I do not need someone there listening to me go.  I’m all about the privacy.

Post # 4
3697 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

I feel pretty much exactly the same.  I don’t want to feel sorry for them, because, a job is a job and they chose it and it pays the bills.  But I still don’t want to talk to them because I’m just there to pee.  I’m capable of getting a paper towel, thanks… 

In a posh hotel I guess it’s a little better than a club, but I still don’t like it. 

Post # 5
10573 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: January 2011

I’m not a fan, I would rather just buy something from a vending machine if needed.  The most common place I’ve seem them is in clubs, and I wonder if some of that is for safety?  If that’s the point, then fine.

Post # 6
9682 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper

@joya_aspera:  I have only ever seen this in the Caribbean. They try to pass me a paper towel and expect a tip. It’s very awkward and I hate it.

Post # 7
85 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

Once when I was at the theatre when I was twelve years old, a bathroom valet told me that my skirt was tucked into my tights. If she hadn’t pointed that out to me, I would have been pretty embarrassed when I left the bathroom. So there are upsides to bathroom valets.

Post # 8
1935 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: February 2014

@beekiss:  I’m with you there. 

Plus, I don’t need to pay you a dollar to hand me a paper towel. I can do that myself. And it won’t cost me a dollar. 

Now, I have been to a nighclub in Toronto where they had a full blown fucking SALON in the girl’s bathroom. You can get your hair redone if you’ve been out shaking it with some stranger on the dance floor, or have your makeup re-done if it all came off while you were making out with said stranger and getting his sweat all over you. At least, those seemed to be the primary reasons girls were getting touch ups. I was with Fiance, so I went in, peed, and left. No tipping. 

Post # 9
551 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

@joya_aspera:  I feel the EXACT same way as you! I always acknowledge the person and greet them, but after using the bathroom, I always avert eye contact and race the woman to the hand towels and ensure her that “No it’s okay, I’ve got it”. I never linger in the bathroom for very long if a valet is in there because I really don’t need any assistance and it makes me feel really uncomfortable. I went to a really nice restaurant in New York City a few years ago and the valet actually washed my hands for me. I didn’t even know what to do. I’m pretty sure when I returned to our table, my jaw was hanging open and I was at a loss for words to explain to my family what had just happened in the bathroom!

Post # 10
2958 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2013 - Wynn Las Vegas

I always get feel a twinge of annoyance when I enter a bathroom to find that person. It makes it so awkward when I am washing my hands and the whole time I am thinking “please let me dry my hands without your help!” I would never give them any money on a regular bathroom visit, although one day I was desperate for a tampon and I payed for it.

Post # 11
9578 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2013

I’m not a fan.  I always feel like I’m being watched, especially if I’m the only one in there!

Post # 12
8472 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2012

I don’t go for it. Like you said, I can grab a paper towel on my own. I remember them back in the day at night clubs where they’d have deodorant, tampons, etc…things like that for you to use. 


Post # 14
407 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

@joya_aspera:  I have been to Cancun a few times, and after our first trip, we pretty much realized that all the bathrooms in places near the resorts have these attendants, and we always prepared with change so that we could tip when we had to go to the bathroom. When I am prepared like that, I’m fine with it, because I know I’m going to have money to give them. It is a little awkward, but again, they’re trying to make a living, and it’s better than waving those mannequin heads around at me with the braided hair on the street.

However, when I am NOT expecting a bathroom attendant, I hate it. I do not have cash or change on me 99.9% of the time, and I feel awful that I won’t be able to give even just a quarter to tip because I feel like I’m being judged. What baffles me is that I’ve seen them in clubs near a large college campus I live by, where you have a bunch of poor 21 year old college students who do not need someone to offer a paper towel to them. I could understand at an upscale restaurant (though it doesn’t make it less awkward) but at some grungy college bar/club? Come on!

I always rush to get out of the bathroom in those cases, and sometimes it’s worse when your friends stay at the bar for the majority of the night and you have to go 2-3 times. If I can’t scrounge up enough change to tip, I’m going in there and rushing out while the same woman gives me dirty looks. How was I supposed to know you would be in here to assist me with things that I’m fully capable of doing myself? Overall, I’d say it’s awkward and annoying.

Post # 15
2573 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

Silly question, but when you say security for clubs – do you mean someone who watches to make sure there is no coke being snorted?

I find bathroom attendants annoying as well. I can see the point if it’s a busy club with only one bathroom, and the attendant also cleans the bathroom to prevent it from becoming uber filthy. However, just sitting around and giving me a paper towel? No, thank you.

Post # 16
9142 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 2013 - St. Augustine Beach, FL

@joya_aspera:  You are not alone.  First, I don’t even like sharing a bathroom with other people using the bathroom.  Second, I hate knowing that someone is counting the seconds/minutes I am doing my business as well as listening in if the bathroom is empty.  Third, I don’t carry money into the bathroom to tip people.  I pretty much say “sorry”, wash my hands, and run out of there.

@MrsNewDay:  Is that what they’re there for!?!  I had no idea clubs would want to deter people from that type of recreational activity but I guess it encourages sales in the club and I know they wouldn’t want that.

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