(Closed) How do you feel about children’s beauty pageants?

posted 6 years ago in Parenting
  • poll: Are you for or against putting children in beauty pageants?
    for it : (7 votes)
    4 %
    against it : (117 votes)
    75 %
    neutral : (32 votes)
    21 %
  • Post # 3
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    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: January 1993

    I think it’s fairly creepy. I have no problem if the kids truly want to do them, but most of the time I feel like it’s crazy momma living vicariously through their kids. 

    Post # 4
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    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: June 2011

    I guess I don’t care either way, since I don’t have any girls.  I think we are all aware of the bad side of them, but there is a good side.   A friend of mine adopted a young girl that truly thought she was worse than dirt, she had such a bad self image from the years of mental abuse.  My friend put her in a few pagents, got her all dolled up and she won a few trophies.  Her self image totally turned around.  Now, she wasn’t one of these that spent thousands getting all the fancy stuff nor did she travel the country, she just did a few local ones.  Once her self image was on it’s way to repair and she was able to make friends at school, they quit and did other activities.  So, I do see a good side of them, but like anything, once it becomes obsessive, that is when I think they become an issue.

    Post # 5
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    Buzzing Beekeeper

    My policy is, if my daughter wants to be Miss America someday and directly says “Mom I want to do pageants” I’ll support her (as in we’d try one to start and see how she likes it). I think certain pageants (think local Little Miss or local fairs) can probably teach some degree of poise and learning how to cope with disappointment, some are downright horrifying. I would not be spray tanning my 4 year old or putting her in a wig or a bikini. I’d really prefer she did something like ballet or debate team, but she’ll have to find her own interests on her own time.

    So I didn’t vote, because I’m neither totally for or against. It would all depend on the circumstances.

    Post # 7
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    Honey bee
    • Wedding: October 2010

    @KatyElle:  That’s about my stance on it, but as usual, you said it better. 

    Post # 8
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    Bumble Beekeeper

    My only experience with them is very biased since it’s basically all from Toddlers and Tiaras, which I can’t stand.  I’m sure they’re not all like that.  I don’t think I really like the idea of them either way, though.  I prefer group activities and sports for children or lessons that foster specific talents.

    Post # 9
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: November 2011

    I’m neutral about it. I did one as a child (don’t remember it at all) then Miss Illinois Teen USA at 14 and Miss Illinois USA at 19. However, I can see how the girls on shows such as Toddlers & Tiaras would be negatively affected because of how the mothers act. But if your child asks to do it and you support them in a healthy way I don’t think it’s a bad thing.

    Post # 10
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    515 posts
    Busy bee

    I think it depends. Local ones, where they actually seem like little kids, sure. But the ones where the little kids (girls mostly) look like minature adults with spray tans, extreme amounts of makeup (they put more makeup on those kids than I put on myself!), and all that… seems inappropriate to me.

    And I also think it makes a difference if the kid wants to do it or if the parents want the kid to do it. I mean, if your kid doesn’t want to play soccer, would you force them to be on a team? That’s just how I feel though.

    Post # 11
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: September 2012

    I really wanted to be in a pageant when I was a kid but my mom was afraid it would make me feel bad about my self-image; it really just made me feel bad that my mom didn’t think I was pretty enough to be in a pageant.  It just looked like fun to me!

    I think it’s no worse than children’s sports; some parents obsess over their children being athletic and get their highschoolers to take steroids, I think that’s not the norm but I also think it’s not the norm to spray-tan your toddler.  When a parent lives vicariously through his or her child like this with ANY activity, I think it’s bad news.

    Post # 12
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: October 2012

    If I was in the situation where my daughter told me SHE wanted to participate in a pageant I would have to research pageants that physical beauty was not a basis of judgment.

    Post # 13
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    Blushing bee

    it depends.

     

    if the kid wants to do it, sure.

    but if the parents force it, hellz no.

    Post # 14
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: October 2014

    I think these toddlers and tiaras shows go a little bit far but I am not against beauty pagents for kids. I was in a competitive dance company from the age of 7 and although it wasn’t quite as bad as a beauty pageant, I was still required to wear heavy makeup, expensive outfits, hair pieces, and fake eyelashes. I loved every minute of it until my senior year in high school. My mom is the one that started me in the dance company but she never EVER forced me to do it. They day I said I wanted to quit she fully supported me. I have no problem with the beauty pageants as long as the children are just as into it as the parents are! The day the child stops enjoying themselves is the day the parents need to say “ok, we’re done!”. 

    Post # 15
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: July 2011

    They are not something I knew much about  until I Jon Bennet Ramsey disappeared and there started being shows on TV about it.

    Totally not a fan.  

    Post # 16
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: October 2013

    Toddler and tiaras should be outlawed. I’m sorry but 3 year olds should not be spray tanned and have false eyelashes!

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