(Closed) How do you feel about destination weddings as a guest?

posted 5 years ago in Destination Weddings
  • poll: How do you feel about Destination Weddings overall as a guest?
    Excited - I love to travel and need a vacation anyway! : (100 votes)
    44 %
    Bummed - Too much money and comittment! : (106 votes)
    47 %
    Other: please explain : (20 votes)
    9 %
  • Post # 3
    Member
    4025 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: August 2013

    excited. I love an excuse to travel.

    We’re having a Destination Wedding in Scotland. I’ve been really surprised/happy with how many people are coming – they want an excuse to come to Scotland 🙂

    Post # 4
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    2401 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: October 2012

    Hmmmm this is a tough one. Like for example my Boyfriend or Best Friend just got engaged and was planning a wedding in the Virgin Islands. I was stoked. I’ve known her for like 8 years. No question in my mind I was going (in the wedding which I am or not). If it was like a distant relative then I might think twice. I love Vacays though!

    Post # 5
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    6512 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: September 2012

    My brother is having a destination wedding this fall, and so is one of my good friends.  I am excited about both, but a bit worried about paying for two big trips in a month.  We’ll definitely enjoy the trips, though!

    Post # 7
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    12975 posts
    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: November 1999

    Both – I’m excited to go, but bummed about the cost.  There have been some lately that we’ve declined because the cost is just exorbitant on top of saving for a house and a wedding and paying off grad school! 

    Post # 8
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    1748 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: May 2013

    It all just depends. The person can be super close to me, but if I don’t have the funds then it’s not going to happen. A good friend is getting married a month after us in Europe and we’re not going. 1 month isn’t enough time to recover financially from the wedding and honeymoon in order to travel to Euorpe.

    I also think people getting married abroad can’t expect friends to come because it’s a big financial commitment. It’s a gamble you have to take.

    Post # 9
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    3771 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: August 2013 - Brookfield Zoo

    I should’ve said other because it’s really both – I’m excited to be invited to a destination and to have the reason and opportunity to go, but oftentimes the cost ends up being more than expected which can really suck.

    Post # 10
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    9142 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: November 2013 - St. Augustine Beach, FL

    If I had the money to go I would be excited but unless I was given enough time to plan (1 year or more), I probably wouldn’t be able to justify the expense on my budget.  Plane tickets are just ridiculous these days plus having to take time off and it would take away days I could be actually vacationing.  In all honesty, I would probably find an excuse not to go but I would feel bad about it.

    Post # 11
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    2116 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: October 2013

    Honestly, I would be extremely unlikely to attend a destination wedding.

    Post # 12
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    2401 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: October 2012

    @Lily_of_the_valley:  Yeah the money is the key. lol I hope they gave you some time to save! Unfortunatley for me they decided to just have it here in town. Bummer. I know. Still planning a vacay though soon! Good luck and have fun!!! (:

    Post # 13
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    6256 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: March 2014

    Mostly bummed. They’re so expensive. I understand some people can just take their vacation budget to pay for them, and have that be their vacation, but some of us don’t HAVE a vacation budget.

    So if my sister decides to get married in Italy, for example, that doesn’t mean I won’t be going to Cancun this year. It means that I either skip the wedding, or else we don’t have dates for several months, we have to make major concessions on our own wedding (such as eliminating the candy bar, the photo booth, and downgrading the food), and/or we don’t get new clothes or haircuts for six months.

    If the person was close enough to me, I’d do it anyway, because there are some relationships you can’t put a price on. And I’d never utter a negative word about it to the bride, because she deserves to have her day the way she wants it as much as I or anyone else do. But you can bet I would be cursing and stressing the entire time I was alone or with Fiance only.

    Post # 14
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    11272 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: April 2012

    i would probably go because i love to travel but to be honest, i would prefer to choose where i spent my vacation funds and when to go.

    Post # 15
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    6212 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: August 2013 - The Liberty House

    It depends on whose wedding it is. If it’s a close friend I’d probably be excited for it, but for someone else, I would have to say no, so not so excited. Especially if I got a few in a short period of time

    Post # 16
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    5273 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: October 2009

    Niether bummed nor excited, as it would all depend on where they were getting married. 

    If it was a place like Cancun that I have been to many times, I would be indifferent. However, if it was a place that I hadn’t been to then I would be more excited. 

    I will say that if we did have a Destination Wedding to go to it would put a damper on our regular travel schedule (we usually do 2 international trips and a few domestic trips a year, therefore my vacation days at work are maxed out.) So I may be disappointed if the Destination Wedding was in a place I have already visited, because I would have to use vacation days on that trip vs. another. 

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