Post # 1
I’m starting to have favor regret!
BACKGROUND STORY: I have battled Graves Disease (thyroid disease) for a while now. I recently was diagnosed with Thyroid Cancer, and it’s kind of become a big deal for me. I’ve become really involved with efforts to find a cure (currently the only “cure” for TC is surgery, but the thyroid could still grow back & there’s no cure of GD). Not only is this important to me because, of course the big C is nothing to play with, but it bothers me that even after I have the thyroidectomy, I still won’t be cured of thyroid disease. I’ll go from having an overactive thyroid to having an underactive throid. This means I’m still taking meds and dealing with new symptoms. :-/
So for our wedding this Saturday, Fiance and I chose to donate $10 per guest (we only have 100) to the Graves Disease and Thyroid Foundation. I didn’t want to just leave a card on the table, so I am packaging up Thyroid Cancer awareness ribbon cookies, thyroid disease awareness pens with our wedding date, awareness bracelet, and a small card that tells what the bag and its contents are all about.
They problem is I read a post where some brides thought it was tacky to do a “donation in lieu of favors”. What are your thoughts?
Post # 2
- Wedding: September 2014 - Turf Valley
But you’re not doing a donation “in lieu” of favors. You’re giving them cookies and pens as favors AND donating on their behalf! 🙂
Post # 3
msdanibaby: While I’m generally not a fan of donation favors (and actually don’t believe favors are necessary at all), in this case, since it’s a disease you are personally battling, I don’t think it’s tacky at all. Best wishes for your health too!
Post # 4
I don’t think you should worry about this at all. Donations in lieu of favors are a great idea and increasing in popularity.
After an evening of eating and drinking, no one needs more cookies, candy, mints or worse, assorted paraphernalia with your name, wedding date, or photo on it.
Post # 5
Thanks Ladies for your responses! So helpful and thoughtful. This lifts a big weight off my shoulders.
Post # 6
msdanibaby: I love this idea! I do not think it is tacky at all.
Post # 7
goblueca: Thanks for the well wishes!
Post # 8
I normally am not a fan of “donation in lieu of” favors. However, as previous posters mentioned, since you are personally fighting this fight, it’s absolutely fine and makes a lot of sense.
Good luck to you and your family, and have a wonderful wedding. 🙂
Post # 9
msdanibaby: Donation favours don’t do anything for a guest. I don’t believe favours are necessary at all but I don’t see how donating to your own cause is a gift/favour for a guest. If it was a donation to my charity of choice, that would make more sense to me but its still not necessary.
As for personalized pens, I don’t think that makes sense either. I wouldn’t want a pen with someone else’s name and wedding date on it. If favours are done at all, small and edible ones are usually well received.
Why not just donate to your cause independently rather than calling it something done for a guest? I’m not against donating – I do it myself – and I do wish you the best of luck in your fight. I just don’t think it makes sense in this context.
Post # 10
I wouldn’t complain to you about it, but I also see no reason to inform your guests of your donation.
You chose to make a private donation to a cause near to your heart, which is great. But it is not in anyway a favour to your guests.
Post # 11
Love the idea… not tacky at all!
Post # 12
msdanibaby: I love this idea!! Donation favors are so thoughful! As far as I am concerned if anyone had a problem with that then they would just be super selfish people in my books! My mom was a transplant recipient before she passed so I am an advocate for organ donation. I wanted to give something to our guests to raise awareness in memory of my mom. So I am going to make these plantable ribbon cards and give them to our guests. They are cheap and easy to make and they are unique! This way my guests can plant flowers in memory of my mom and in awareness of organ donation!
Post # 13
msdanibaby: Research Hemp Oil as a Cancer Cure…
Post # 14
I love your idea. Good going!
Post # 15
It really depends on the cause and how personal it is to you. Organizations doing research for a disease that you or a family member have personally gone through, I’m 100% with you. If it is a charity or cause that you normally do work with, I’m 100% with you. Where it falls flat is when you are giving to a random, well known charity with no personal conection. Then, it looks like you are giving yourself a big pat on the back and calling it a favor to someone else.