(Closed) How do you feel about expensive wedding dresses? story…

posted 4 years ago in Dress
  • poll: What would you do?
    go and try on styles and find one similar for cheaper : (30 votes)
    38 %
    buy an expensive dream bridal dress : (15 votes)
    19 %
    not even go there as you may end up falling for an expensive dress : (33 votes)
    41 %
    other : (2 votes)
    3 %
  • Post # 2
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    217 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: March 2016

    I say you only get married once, or should only get married once. However, I understand about not wanting to spend a lot of money on a dress. I think I would go try on different dresses and then try to find one smiliar or cheaper. You may want to go to trunk sales or something like that or try to buy one that is not special order that is off the rack.

    Post # 3
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    2001 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: August 2016

    I say try on dresses and figure out what style you want. Many times you can find the dress online or a similar one for much cheaper. Make sure everyone is on the same page about your budget and whether or not you plan to purchase at the actual store. I think thats most important. You don’t want people shoving a dress down your throat thats not in budget or expecting you to say to a dress you really like but don’t want to pay for. 

    Post # 4
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    1043 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: March 2015

    I wouldn’t try on any dresses that you wouldn’t be happy to buy.

    My strategy was to start at the cheapest bridal shop, and work my way up from there if necessary. Fortunately it didn’t turn out to be necessary. I would not have wanted to risk falling in love with an expensive dress before I had even explored more reasonable options.

    Post # 5
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    2573 posts
    Sugar bee

    I wouldn’t go into a shop that you know is out of your budget it is easy to fall in love with something you can’t afford.

    Post # 6
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    2348 posts
    Buzzing bee

    CazzieCoo:  People get crazy around weddings. If you’re wealthy and you want an expensive dress and you can afford it then fine, but if you’re on a budget don’t throw that out the window just because it’s a wedding. I was a budget bride and I can guarantee you that everyone will enourage you to spend spend spend.

    When it comes to invitations they’ll say, “but they set the tone for the event and it’s a keepsake!”, when it comes to the dress they’ll say, “but it’s just this one special day!”, and the same will be said of the food,  the venue, etc. 

    I set a budget for my dress and was firm that I would NOT try on anything over my budget. Trying on dresses you can’t afford, looking at venues you can’t afford, etc. will only make you feel unhappy with what you have. You’ll either end up dissatisfied or way over budget. 

    Post # 7
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    266 posts
    Helper bee

    I’m in a similar situation. I can’t imagine spending more than $500 on a dress that I’ll only wear once.. wedding or not! But my mom really wants to go wedding dress shopping with me, and in her mind I should be a princess.

    So, I’m just going to try on gowns so that we’ll have that kind of bonding time together, and then I’ll politely tell her that they aren’t my style, and I’ll buy the dress that I really want!

    Post # 8
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    2546 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: July 2013

    CazzieCoo:  I was on a tight budget as well, and even if I wasn’t I would not feel ok with spending tons of money on a one-day dress. I went ahead and went to the bridal salon and tried on a bunch of different styles, mainly because I had no idea what kind of dress I wanted (ballgown, sheath, a-line, mermaid, short). I went in knowing I wasn’t going to be spending anything, but I’m a huge bargain hunter and very often leave stores without a purchase to reasearch it elsewhere… Depends on your personality really, if you can’t live without something you fall in love with that could be an issue…. 

    ETA:  I live in the middle of no-where so it’s not like they had high-end designer gowns hanging around to the tune of $3K+… I think their most expensive dress was around $1,500 and they are the only bridal store within mutliple hours drive… So I guess I *did* go to a discount bridal shop kinda… 

    Post # 9
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    1587 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: October 2016

    If your mom or anyone else INSISTS that you should have a gown over your budget, tell her you’d be happy to try those on if she’s willing to pay for the difference of whatever that gown costs over the budget you have set. 

    Sarcasm aside, I agree with PP’s — better off not doing even trying on the ones that are over budget.

    Post # 10
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    6628 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: June 2015

    First, you don’t want to fall for a dress you can’t have and feel like everything else is second best.  It would be so disappointing.

    Second, let’s remember, too, that if you can’t afford the dress, it would be exceptionally rude of you to waste the time of the people working at the store.  They have better things to do than pander to someone with no intention of making a purchase from them.  

    Go to a place you can afford, spend an amount of money you feel is justifiable.  Just because your limit is 300 doesn’t mean that’s what you have to spend.  If your mother pushes it, tell her to feel free to buy the dress for you 

    Post # 11
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    195 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: October 2015

    I was very clear with my consultant that I wanted to try on dresses ONLY in my budget, which was the same as yours. I found a great dress for $99!

    Post # 12
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    454 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: July 2015

    CazzieCoo:  depends how strong your will is and what kind of shopper you are. I knew no matter how amazing a dress was I was when I wouldn nver spend a lot on a dress, but I’m also not the kind of person who would think only one dress was the one and I have a very strong will. Depends on you of you can go in there or not! eTA I will disagree with some others and say go try on some dream dresses. even if you won’t buy them it’s kind of fun and the only time in your life you can do it! I kind of regret not doing this more, Yes it’s wasting the consultants time but most people dont buy dresses when they walk in anyway and planning a wedding can be so stressful and terrible any little bit of fun you can have while doing it is a plus to me 

    • This reply was modified 4 years, 3 months ago by  Star116062.
    Post # 13
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    464 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: April 2015

    I have to say my advice is not to try on any dresses that you wouldn’t feel comfortable paying for. My ideal budget was $800 max. I tried on a few David bridal dresses and was satisfied because I didn’t know any different but my mom made a boutique appointment after that appointment and I tried on $1600 dresses. The difference in quality and fabric was amazing and once you put it on and fall in love it’s very hard to go back. I used to always wonder how people could spend $5000 on a dress or something crazy like that… But now I know:) by the way even though my dress was more than my first car, I was in love with it and still am. It was worth every penny.

    Post # 14
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    603 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: April 2016 - Athol Hall, Mosman

    I wasn’t quite a budget bride but I did have a low limit (before my mother stepped in and bought my dress). I had researched the lower end designers (Mori Lee, Alfred Angelo, Roz la Kelin, Henry Roth, & Bonny for example) for dresses <$1000AUD and went to boutiques stocking those designers only. Also, don’t be afraid of trying out gowns in the shop and then looking at the pre-owned wedding dress sites. Tradesy and preownedweddingdresses are the 2 that I had most looked at. There are actual bridal salons that’ll sell their old samples on both sites and those dresses come down to like 50% – 60% off.

    Post # 15
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: July 2016

    Is there a chance your mom would pay for the dress or the difference between your budget and the dress? 

    I tried on $3000+ dresses but settled on one for $1600 at a different store. 

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