(Closed) How do you feel about facebook in regards to exes?

posted 9 years ago in Relationships
Post # 4
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Buzzing bee

My 2 HS BFs and one of my college BFs are my FB friends.  However, the serious rel’nship that I was in before I dated Darling Husband ended poorly.  Our mutual friend (more of my friend) suggested we be friends, and I replied back with “so and so is no longer part of my life” and he thought I was being dramatic…this guy was such a jerk face to me, though!

Post # 5
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2010 - Wyndham Sugar Bay Resort, St. Thomas

It really does make it too easy to find people and see what they’ve been up to. I have an ex that finds me on instant messenger once in a while, friends me, then proceeds to tell me everything that’s been going on with him, then he de-friends me. I’ve learned not to accept his messenger friend requests, and I’ve totally made my facebook profile private. No Nachos stalking allowed!

Post # 6
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

This is an interesting question. I do think that the popularity of FB makes it more challenging to break up with someone, especially if you need to sever all ties before you can get over a person. A friend of mine was dating a woman recently, and I thought she was awesome. But after she broke up with him, she defriended him and every single one of his friends, which was sad for me, since I have no other real way of getting in touch with her. But I can totally understand how she wouldn’t want to risk seeing stuff from him via my account.

Post # 7
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: March 2010 - Calamigos Ranch

That’s why my profiles are super private and I don’t accept friend requests from exes. I just don’t feel like it’s any of their business anymore what I’m up to.

Post # 8
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 2010

I dont have exes on my FB page… not my “thing”. M doesn’t either actually or if he does they don’t comment on his fb page or any of that kind of thing. 

Post # 9
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: March 2010 - Calamigos Ranch

I just realized why that’s so easy for me: I’m a geezer. 😉 I didn’t have a FB page until I was already with Mr. S, and I never had a myspace or anything… so it’s not like there was any way any of my exes could have already been involved in my social networking circle, which @redherring’s example reminded me of.

Post # 10
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Buzzing bee

haha @Spaniel   I think I was already w/ my Darling Husband before I got my FB account, too!

Post # 11
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 2010

I also just got my FB since M and I have been together so I guess that’s why it’s not such a big deal to me either.

Post # 12
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

I agree with you and Spaniel are right, I completely delete them as friends – because if I’m no longer speaking to them why keep them there. You’re right it can just lead to not-so-great situations.

Sometimes I just like to go “Ugh technology! “

Post # 13
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

I’m friends with all my ex’s on facebook, and Mr. KM is friends with his. He didn’t end things on good terms, but has her profile hidden so he can’t see it, and he doesn’t care to,but he would feel bad if he unfriended her. All except one of my relationships ended on good terms, and I’m friends with two of them, so it doesn’t matter that much. I’m meh about facebook, though, so… I’m on there, and I comment on the people I’m close  with and see most days of the week, but other than that I use it to share things with my friends who live 400 miles away.

Post # 14
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

I was already with my Fiance before I got a FB account and I use my privacy settings diligently. I learned my lesson about that when my daughter’s father copied one of my daughter’s pictures off my page and onto his…LOL. I found out about it through mutual friends. Now all of my pictures are “friends only”.

It’s not that I had an issue with him having pictures of our daughter…it was more the creepiness of knowing that he wasn’t my friend but b/c we had mutual friends he was using the connection to browse through my photo albums at will. I mean…you can’t have a civil conversation with me but you are going through pictures of my life at will….creepy

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